Melissa,<BR>Your post brought tears to my eyes. I've read alot of things here in the last 2.5 years, but this is reprehensible. I hope and pray that you are safe. Please do whatever it takes to take care of you, and recover.<BR>Prayers and Hugs,<BR>Trace

<I>Keeping this near the top until Melissa can see it....</I><P>Blessings.<BR>HBC

Hi all, Can you believe we found her???!!! (Actually I cannot take credit for it.. I’m only the messenger here.)<P>I asked Belldany if I could post a short message to all of you so you know you do not need to worry. She is fine even though her arm is a little sore. She’s seen all the warmth and love poured out here and says she will treasure it forever.<P>We need to have faith that she is going to do the right thing given her options. I for one would not be surprised if we saw here back here before long. But, under the circumstances enough said.<P>[H} this is for you from Belldandy…. “ Tell [H] this is not his fault. But tell him that I feel that because my H came from an abusive childhood and lacked a lot of control, control and "power" are very important things to him issues that he's not yet worked through. So reading about true humility makes him feel threatened and "controlled." Admitting a mistake, to him, is tantamount to saying, "I'm a worthless person undeserving of living." I simply made the grievous mistake of relating to him as though he were a normal person, capable of understanding and admitting his mistakes. God knows I've admitted to quite a few! “<P>And to every one from Belldandy….. I love you all, trusted friends.<P>just the messenger<P>Z<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

Melissa, AKA "Bell" <P>Thanks for the update. I was worried and got a phone call from a friend telling me that you had been found, and you were okay for the moment. I was very relieved.<P>My point of view was this. I posted a lot of things, and while I don't control your husband. You shared my words with him. So I feel paritialy responcible for that. They are after all my words. I would love to have hoped that good would have come from it. Perhaps something sunk in? I don't know. Instead he chose to react diffrently.<P>Not sure why your husband isn't picking up on this. <BR>You do get stronger admitting your mistakes. You learn from it. You grow from it as a result. You're so much stronger knowing where you went wrong, then choosing to say. I was never wrong. I don't understand that logic myself. I don't understand why people cannot grasp that concept. It makes sense. Use your mistakes to make you stronger. Knowledge is power.<P>Simply saying "I was wrong" changes nothing. It's when you understand how you went wrong, and where, it changes everything.<P>Thank you for the update Bell, you are in my prayers.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers, Hugs, and Strength from both of us. Things do and can get better. Keep hoping, learning, and growing. Take care of yourself.<P>[H] and Knewjie

zorweb, thank you for posting Melissa's message. It makes me feel so much better knowing that she is ok and knows that we are here for her!<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>

Terri,<P>She knows we are all here for her. <P>Who knows, we might just see her here some times if we were to look between the bits and bytes. We should post a hi to her once in a while just in case.<P>Z<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

Bell!!! <P>We all miss you here. No way i'm gonna let you disappear off the boards Melissa.<P><P>------------------<BR>Prayers, Hugs, and Strength from both of us. Things do and can get better. Keep hoping, learning, and growing. Take care of yourself.<P>[H] and Knewjie

Yep.... HI <P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

I was away from the boards the last 3 days and I'm so happy you're okay, Bell! <P>God's Blessings!<P>

Hi Bell,<P>Just a friendly bump to the top again.<BR>Drop by and see us. When you can. "Safely"<P>Take care of yourself out there <P>------------------<BR>Prayers, Hugs, and Strength from both of us. Things do and can get better. Keep hoping, learning, and growing. Take care of yourself.<P>[H] and Knewjie

Just wanted to add how happy I was to hear the news she was ok, and I passed this on to the office at marriage builders too, since they too were concerned. Thank you Zorweb and BellDandy!!<P>Hi Bell I hope you are seeing all this somehow. Do what you have to do Bell, and come back soon!<P>

Another bump to let you know that we are thinking of you, Melissa....<P>You are a worthwhile person. There is no excuse for ill treatment. Don't be afraid of doing what is right.<P>Blessings.<BR>HBC

Ditto & to the top

HI! Melissa!<P>Hope things are going well, if not hopefully better at least. Take care of yourself <BR><P>------------------<BR>Prayers, Hugs, and Strength from both of us. Things do and can get better. Keep hoping, learning, and growing. Take care of yourself.<P>[H] and Knewjie

<BR>Belldandy.. Hi hope you're ok. Let us know somehow one of these days.<P>Z<P><P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

Yes, you are missed Bell.

bdandy,<P>Up we go, I'm thinking about you, hope all is well.<P>Cyn

Bell,<P>I look everyday to see if you have posted. You are missed.<P>Thanks Zorweb for letting us know she is OK. I just wanted to say that you are in my thoughts and prayers.<P>God bless, Desiree<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

Melissa,<P>Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you and praying for you.<P>Hang in there!!<P>((((((((((((((((((((MELISSA))))))))))))))))))))<P>K/LostNco/DSN<BR>[H]'s wife

bumping you to the top again sweetie,<P>We miss you! <P>(((((((hugs)))))), Paint.