I just had another D-day today. I finally found my H's new hiding spot...nothing has changed. This is 3 times now in two years, and I can't do this anymore. I've Plan Aed for over a year, but apparently that wasn't enough.<P>I'm not knocking MB by any means. I think that this is a wonderful tool for couples in a marital crisis. But in my situation, I think that a divorce is best. Even today, when I found the stash of condoms and women's phone numbers in his truck, I didn't feel the usual rage. I was almost bemused at the fact that it had happened again. I think numb is the best word for how I feel...maybe it's because this whole situation hasn't sunk in yet or what. But I'm starting the divorce proceedings - and Plan B - right away. I don't have many feelings left for my H, otherwise I think I would care more.<P>I believe my H is a sex addict. There has never really been one particular woman. I know that some men are not capable of being faithful to anybody, and I believe that my H falls into that category. It hurts my heart, but I also know that I'll get through this horrendous chapter of my life. I also know that this will be more his loss - my heart does hurt, but I can walk away knowing that I tried - I tried so hard - to make this marriage work.<P>I wish everybody else here the best of luck. I'll probably start posting more in D/D so that I can figure out how the hell you get through this. Thanks everybody for the wonderful support system over the past year - unfortunately, it just wasn't meant to be for me and my H.<P>CB

Hi Hon,<P>Ick about the hiding spot. I remember that kind of stuff pretty well... reminds me of the cassette tape pulled out all over Azusa Ave. in Southern California -- and then I ran over the case. That might help you CB... take the stuff and run over it with the car!!<P>Best wishes with the legalities too... and expect some tears, even though the love is all but gone. It hurts, and it SUX, no matter what!!<P>(((((CB)))))

Oooh, I like the tape idea. I had his truck today (hence, the D-Day III thing), and I was sooooo tempted to leave it in first gear and see how fast it would go before the tranny blew...but since we have a child together and he'll have to pick him up too, I left his truck alone. But I swear - I don't know how the key scratches got on the door! LOL! (sorry, my sarcastic humor is all that I have right now!)

hehehehehehehhe... been there, baby!!

Awwww... CB, I'm so sorry. We're always here for you no matter what you choose.<P>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Carolina Belle}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<BR><P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>

CB,<BR>I'm so sorry. Your H is a knucklehead. At least now you know what you are dealing with and can make decisions for your future. I know when I served D papers, I didn't see any hope for my marriage. My story took a different turn at that point--with my H doing a full turnaround, but it still took me 6 months to believe it.<P>I think Plan B is an excellent choice for you. Even in our 60 day-no-fault divorce state, a divorce can be held up indefinitely once you serve/file papers. Just be sure a divorce is really what you want.<P>Hugs to you, honey. <P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Whatever is true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, gracious...think about these things." Phil 4:8

{{{{{{{Carolina}}}}}}}}<P>I'm sorry your H is being a jerk, hand the the MB rying pan, we need it to cyber whack Carolina's H too!! Boy, it's getting alot of use today!<P>Best of luck to you, I don't blame you a bit for your reaction. I wish you a great and wonderful future!!<P>

Hey CB...<P>This just sux!!! I don't blame you for your decision. I guess I dont know what to say other than...WE are here and good luck!!<P>Trueheart

CB, I've been locked out of this forum for a couple of days so i'm reading your post a little late.<P>I am so sorry that this keeps happening to you. I wish that your H could understand truly how much you have tried and what he will lose.<P>You are a very strong person. Not only can you body slam with the best of them ( ) but you are resiliant. You are smart, beautiful and ambitious. I have no doubt that whatever happens you will be successful in your life.<P>Thankfully, I don't have to go to the D/D board but I may just stop in to check on you every now and then.<BR>Let us know what is going on.<P>cleo

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