Hey there again all...it's been a few days since I've been here....what a ride these last 2 to 3 weeks...<BR>My H has gone from hardly seeing us to being here constantly...explaining everything he does....worrying I'll take things wrong...<BR>Anyway here's the latest update...after begging off with lame excuses why he wouldn't be coming home...he is now coming here at night as usual...only 1 thing missing...and that is his 4 sets of work clothes still at his parent's house?...oh well...he'll figure out soooner or later that it's easier to have his work clothes here...LOL..he keeps getting locked out when he tries to go change clothes for work....<BR>He's here constantly besides work?...Just like he lives here?...of course he has been paying all his money to us thru out the entire separation too...<BR>Also he's begun sleeping with me again...2 to 3 times this week already...<BR>He still won't say I love you to me...but gives me the I love you look or smiles and hugs me to him....<BR>The other night he admitted that he still talks to the OW at work but she has shown her true colors to him...the affair(physical) has been over for 3 months now...she has already moved on and is telling lies about him...and other lies are showing up...he told me he doesn't care about her any more and that she's a b****...LOL....so he's seen the light on her side...and it looks like withdrawl is basically over....he hates her more and more every day from what I can see...he is debating changing jobs!...hallelujah...now if he'll only do it....<BR>So it seems we're moving forward...but I"m still a bit hesitant...just playing it cool and watching it play out...<BR>Only one problem...my oldest daughter doesn't know he's changed back to what he was....there is a distance between them now...and I know he's not quite ready to admit his foolish behavior to her yet?...But he is now keeping his temper in check again...thank goodness....his patience is returning again....I pray that she can see the changes in him and that they'll be able to get past what happened over the last 9 months...but it's going to take time....<BR>I work part time midnights now and the kids go to childcare 3 nights a week....and he works afternoons except for 2 days he watches them at night...so she hasn't really been able to see the change back in her daddy again...<BR>I can see she's afraid that the "affair behavior" is still there...which it isn't...at least not for about 2 to 3 weeks now....the change in him has been astounding ever since he talked to my friend about if he lost all his chances?...<BR>He goes out of his way to tell me where he is...what he's doing...and so forth....<BR>And yet I'm still worried....he can't say I love you yet....and his work clothes aren't here yet....<BR>Opinons all?....and yep still in Plan A....s

Mac,<P> That is wonderful news. The changes in your H will show to your daughter. The trust will come back. All I can tell you is give it alot of love and time.<P>Indy

I'm happy for you. <P>It looks like you are going in the right direction. <P>It gives others like me hope too. <P>Keep up the Plan A<P>I am, no matter ho hard it is.

McG:<P>Just getting in after a long trip, but I am glad to see things are looking better.<P>Godspeed,<BR>STL