Well....since I turned 29 yesterday WH agreed to watch the girls for me at our house so my mom could take me out.<BR>When he got here I didn't really say much to him....I was still getting ready to go...he was busy with the girls. I didn't want to take up that time he had with them.<BR>I kissed the girls and told him we would be back later.<BR>He asked what time we would be back and I said...I don't know.<BR>My mom and I went out to supper and stopped off and had a few drinks when we came back into town. I was a little tipsy....just had the giggles....not drunk.<BR>We walked in and WH was coming out of the bathroom and I was heading to it. He stood in my way with his arms on each wall just smiling at me....and looking at me with a different look. My mom noticed it too....she said he didn't look like he wanted me to go through...that he wanted to just grab me right then and there. <BR>As soon as I got out of the bathroom he was ready to go....said goodbye to the girls and headed out the door....I always walk him out.<BR>As I followed him he pulled out his cell phone and started to call someone.....I thought great...he's going to call her right here in front of me. He was calling out to my sisters to see if she was home....asked me if I wanted to ride out there while he got some clothes then he would bring me home......wasn't too sure....was a little mad at him because he didn't even tell me Happy Birthday.<BR>I decided....what the heck....I'll go...at least we'll get to talk.<BR>As we were driving down the road he just started talking....about what place my mom and I stopped at....if i got hit on....all that....then blew me away.<BR>He said....I've been looking forward to being with you all day...thinking about it all day. I wanted to call you earlier and see what time you guys would be home...so I could be with you....but couldn't think of an excuse to call. I said....you don't have to make an excuse to call me....you can call me anytime you want. You know that...no excuses needed.<BR>We got out to where he is staying and he went to get him some clothes while I stayed in the living room. He asked me a question and I couldn't hear him so I went in there and asked him what he said. Well....one thing led to another and we ended up in bed.....not once....but 3 times over the course of the evening. Don't ever remember him being able to do that....LOL<BR>Afterwards we went outside....it's way out in the country....nothing but trees swaying in the breeze...crickets chirping and the stars in the sky. We sat out there for a while standing next to each other just looking up at the stars....it was very nice.<BR>I turned around to say that he had better get me home and he ws staring at me....with a loving look in his eye. I didn't say anything....just enjoyed it.<BR>On the way home we talked about alot of different things.<BR>It was getting close to the time for the OW to be getting home....he wouldn't make it before she got there. I joked around saying that in the state I was in I wouldn't be able to deffend him or me if she were to see us. He said....I wouldn't let her do anything to you. I said....I wouldn't do anything to her anyway.....it wouldn't make me feel better or worse.<BR>He let me put my hand on his arm and keep it there all the way home....he would normally pull away.<BR>When we got back....I asked for one more kiss....just a Birthday kiss....he didn't object.<BR>I told him that I loved him....then asked him when he thought I would ever hear that from him again. He would normally say probably never....but all he said was...I don't know....and smiled at me. He then offhandedly let me know what he was doing tomorrow night and told me exactly what time he was leaving to go. Hmmm....wonder why?? <P>Not sure what to make of it......still hurts that when he leaves me....he goes to her house to stay the night.<BR>He did say though that he told her before he left for work that he would be too tired to do anything with her so don't expect anything. <BR>He also said that he told her no more hickies the other night.....I told him the night before how much it hurt me to see them on him....it was like she was marking her territory. He said that she got a tiny bit upset....but not much. At least he told her...those things are sickening.<BR>Not sure what to make of any of this.....just know that it's harder than you know what to stay away from him.<BR>

Feels kinda funny doesn't it? Feeling like the OP? When the OP does discover it...it becomes a BIG LB....guess it's one reason I keep on, keeping on with the sex thing....<P>Glad your birthday was in someway happy...keep creating those happy moments and when you are feeling low hang onto them...<P>Cali<P>------------------<BR><I>Live Impeccably In Your Word.<BR>Don't Take Anything Personally.<BR>Make No Assumptions.<BR>Do Your Best Always. </I>

It becomes a big LB to who? The WS or the OW?<P>I'm trying to figure out exactly what he's doing....he's already told some people at work about me and him being together....so it won't be long now before the whole factory knows it....and the OW is going to hear about it too. Not that she will believe it.....but she will eventually.....eventually it will all come out.<P>He makes up excuses to her so he can be with me....has had sex with me ALOT more than her this week. Told her that she couldn't put more hickies on him...told her he's too tired.....tried to tell me that one night....but he didn't last long.....lol.<BR>I've been with him every night this week....not intimately every night.....and it feels great to have that back....since he was practically ignoring me for so long.<BR>I just don't want to get hurt again. It seems that every night I'm with him he opens up a little more....offers more....I never have to ask him questions anymore....he is offering all of it now.<BR>I've told him over and over that my feelings are involved...that I love him....and it's not just sex to me....he knows....so I'm not sure.<BR>Is he coming out of the fog a little.....or what?<P>AND......can he actually have feelings for the OW if he's laughing at her with me? I asked him last night if he ever laughed about me with her...and he said no....she didn't like to talk about me like we talk about her. He said he wouldn't anyway.....acted like he wanted to say something else....but didn't...I let it drop from there.<BR>

About the not talking with her about you...DON'T BELIEVE IT...but don't get stuck in it either...<BR>another WS, [H] used to say he did it, told his wife he didn't, and got stuck all in it...felt guilt both ways....<P>The LB will be for OW...my H's OW had a cow because he took me to Vegas last week...I have actually melted down and called her and told her when and how we've been intimate (NOT RECOMMENDED--BIG LB FOR YOUR H!)...<P>Let it all happen naturally...let your H take the lead and you follow...<P>The sex thing is confusing at best...at the worst, I have been feeling used lately...<P>take care,<BR>Cali

I'm not buying into anything right now. I know that he's telling me ALOT of true things.....half thruths and outright lies. But I can tell when he's lying now.<BR>He's telling me the truth about more things every day.<BR>He still lies to me about going out and doing things with her......almost like it's to protect me. He knows it would hurt me if he tells me he's going to go do something with her.<P>The one thing that I can't figure out is that he tells me that he doesn't want me to get my hopes up....but I told him the first night and every night after that that my feelings ARE involved.....if you don't want me to get my hopes up....then walk away. He always stays.<BR>Just wish he'd stay here at home instead of going to her house every night.<P>Just wondering what to do next. Want to ask him out for a date tonight....but afraid that would be pushing it...so I decided to wait and see when he calls. He calls earlier and earlier now.....like he wants to know if I'm home and what I'm doing.<BR>Just hoping that he isn't going to slap me in the face with all this.....knowing my feelings are involved....hoping he wouldn't be so cruel as to hurt me again....but know it's possible.

We hold the key of being hurt or not...if you like being with him...enjoy it....<P>Don't let what he does hurt you...only what you do and what you think can hurt you...<P>The key is in not believing anything until you find the truth....<P>Cali