OK brief rundown <P>H had a brief EA 10 months ago ended contact and is about 3 months from being out of the fog.<P><BR>anyhow all of a sudden H is helping out around the house....... hes taking out the garbage without being asked. he is giving our baby a bath ALL BY HIS SELF<P>hes rubbing my back (i have severe back pain) he also is going to sleep at a decent time ( usually up all night on the puter)<P>ummm what do you all make of this?<P>

Luv,<P> Are you sure that he has stopped conversing with the OW? If he is then I think that you should give it everything that you have got. He is making the atempt to get back into the relationship. This is a good sign.<P>Indy

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by LuvOnTheRox:<BR><B><BR>hes rubbing my back (i have severe back pain) he also is going to sleep at a decent time ( usually up all night on the puter)<P>ummm what do you all make of this?<P></B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>What was he doing on the computer? Is he not on the computer AT ALL anymore? DO you know what he is doing when he is online? The reason I ask is because my husband was carrying on with women online and the only way I can have any peace now is to monitor what he does online. I think he has given it up completely, but I still have to be reassured for a while longer. I just installed Starr PC monitoring software, but for some time now I have been checking his emails and web page history to see what he does. Unfortunately, there is no way I can check chat conversations without special software, which I just installed on his computer. <P>The software is located at:http://www.iopus.com/<P>The only drawback with this software is that you can't really use the trial version because if he restarts the computer with the trail version, a box pops up! Fortunately, my hubby didn't catch on and simply closed the box but that could be a dead giveaway! It costs $39 to buy it.<P>

Indy, i am 100% positive that he has no contact with ow as a matter of fact he despises her because she is constantly attempting to contact him 6 months after No contact letter. all attempts at contact H volentarily tels me about. also we have great communitive conversations about the A and how it has affected us<P>Dana,<BR> My H is a gamer he plays strategic games online against Other players mostly men. i also play with the same people every now and then ....<P>our marriage is going well i have no reason to suspect that hes in contact with OW or has found a new one.<P><BR>this whole helping out thing has me bothered because even before his A he NEVER helped out with ANYTHING he would work and pay the bills but thats as far as it went....... tonight he cooked dinner. I think im going to pass out.<P><BR>just wondering if there are any thoughts on WHY all of a sudden hes helping out.<BR>thanks Luv, Roxy