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Me and my h are back together. He had a PA with a woman in 1994 and 3 contacts with her in the passed year. Each time promising to never contact her again. This third time he wrote a "no contact" email and sent it to her. We were separated 4 months and I filed for divorce because at the time I didn't want to work on the marriage. Now, I do and we are both committed to radical honesty. I told him about how I wanted to be a part of his healing process, and i wanted to know he it would be hard for him not to contact her or if he would have withdrawals and he has assured me that he wants me and our family and has no problem letting her go. I believe him, I think. Is it possible that he really won't miss her and this time it is really over? or is he in denial? am I being foolish? <BR>
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I am sorry Notheard, I know some of your story, but I am not clear on how long the A lasted. If it happened that long ago and he didn't contact her between then and this year, I could see him not having much feeling for her. Has it been "on again off again" over the years? I think if he sent the no contact letter and it was only brief contacts over the past year he probably wont miss her. I wouldn't say don't worry about it, but I think maybe you could talk to H and tell him how you are concerned about this and need his reassurence.
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I'd have to agree with SEM. I think it is possible. His withdrawals most likely came years ago and you may have not have even noticed it...<P>My H was having TONS of withdrawals in between his EA go PA time at home. Then, once it went PA, something just clicked, and he really hasn't had that much. Oh, he feels absolutely wretched about himself, but he doesn't really miss her.<P>Each situation is different...<P>I think it is possible. Only time will tell.<BR>HbH
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