I'm sending out and SOS to all lady MB'ers who are/were WS's and would like to help my WS stop all contact with OM and get through the post-A stages. I have a reply on my "Flying Monkeys" post for anyone who is interested.<p>Basically, she is looking for someone who has been there/done that and could help her through this. I don't think she is quite ready for the MB forums, I think she could use a little one-on-one mentoring first, but eventually, I will tell her about this great place. If anyone is interested, please give me your email address and I will send it to her.<p>Thank you all.

I am a former WS but I don't have a happy ending. I did go through losing the OM and all the pain that goes with it thought. I'd be happy to e-mail her if you think it could help. You can read all about my infidelity by going to this link:
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=37&t=016122

Kim101 has such an offer in her signature.

you can have her email me:<p>franklymydear59@yahoo.com<p>wendy

hi!
Count me in!! Here's my story. She can e-mail me at wldebusk@cox.net

Thanx to everyone who replied and offered to help. I gave W all your names and email addresses, guess we will have to wait and see what happens next. I am not going to push W into contacting any of you, it will have to be her choice.<p>I am so blessed to have friends like this here at MB!

I am a former WS (2 times)...worked with the other man, thought we could still be friends or at lease I did not have to quit my job, I could at least continue to work there and not speak to him. I actually had the second affair due to withdrawals and trying to break it off with the first OM over a long period of time.<p>No we are trully a success story and happier than we have been at any time in our marriage. It took two long and painful years of couples and individual therapy, but it was well worth the work. We now have empty nest...and we love it!<p>I'd be happy to try and help your wife. She can email me at SlmDav@aol.com. Just be sure and indicate that it is regarding Marriage Builders, or I may delete it. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Count me in. I would have replied yesterday, but since I have been following your story I have looked down at a lot of the things you wife has done. I have to admit, I needed to think it through to see if I thought I could help her. Honestly, I think I could quite well. I have been there and done that. I only have one child, but I wasn't there when I should have been at times. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/blush.gif" border="0[/img] When I realized a lot of the cold hard truths lurking in my shadows of the affair it was hard and unearthing. Anyhow, I'll keep this short. I think I could offer your wife some good insights if she really is interested in working through these things. She can e-mail me at tutter13@ivillage.com. I wish you the best. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]

More than happy to help. It is hard to find a friend out there with this taboo story in our history. She is more than welcome to talk whenever she would like.