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#3015362 05/26/2021 1:22 PM
by Parm
I am 34 years old male and living in India. I am married for 6 years and have two children. Before marriage my wife told me that she was in a relationship but was not in love with the guy. the guy was younger in age. they were in relationship for 3 years.
she celebrated many things with him. one day I saw pic of her in her cell phone and asked her where this pic was taken and with whom she was. she said it was in some Mall and my friend was with me and after many days after our engagement I came to know that she was with that guy at that night on her birthday but she again lied to me. After repeated inquiries she confessed that guy was with her. it struck my mind and I was in pain. she might have told me other lies about their relationship.
but she said she had told me everything and she was not lying.
One day the guy called her and she gave the phone to me and I told him that we are going to marry and don't call her again. he tried to malign her on facebook but we deleted our fb id's. after so many years of marriage those things again come in between us and her past is again haunting me. and I am completely devastated. Don't know what to do. Main thing that bother me is not the relationship but the lies on which the relationship stands that I don't like... kindly guide me what should I do........
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#3015402 Jun 5th a 09:31 PM
by SugarCane
Originally Posted by Parm
Now they are not in touch.She never talked about him. the main thing that hurts me is not their relation but the lies she told me to start relation with me.... that really hurt..
but she never admits that she ever lied.
I don't understand what you are trying to achieve by getting her to say that she was in love with the boyfriend. What will you do if she changes her story and says that yes, she loved him? Would you end your marriage over the lie?
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