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Posted By: tiffany_leigh anybody there that's willing to listen - 07/18/07 06:22 PM
i am engaged to the love of my life. nick and i have been good friends for about ten years and i have had the biggest crush on him for sixteen years. we started dating when he left for two weeks when i dropped him off at the airport and i realized he was the one i wanted to be with for the rest of my life. i thought that everything was ok with us but i had a suspition that something was going on but i never said anything. part of me has become controlling because i dont want him to go out because i know that something is going on. one day i ended up on his messenger and saw some sexual things posted and asked what it was and he said that he gets messaged that stuff and that it was nothing. so i decided to snoop and found him on about fifteen dating and booty call sites. he sending pictures of himself to other women. he has promised me that he has stopped after i brought this all to his attention but on july fourth i found out that he was texting a girl that he used to talk to on the websites. i dont know what to do anymore i love him so much. what hurts me the most is that he could come to me and tell me whats going on how he feels why he is on these sites and i have told him that yet he shuts me out. and on top of that we have lost two children that he could cheat on me through that when i needed him the most. the other thing that bothers me is stuff is said about me and he does nothing to defend me. he can blow me off when we have plans to be with someone else but cant do the same for me. he doesnt answer the phone when i call him when hes gone but the phone is glued to his ear when he is with me. what do i do?
Posted By: Bellevue Re: anybody there that's willing to listen - 07/18/07 07:59 PM
Welcome to MB. Please clarify: what does it mean "we have lost two children"? miscarriages? Abortions? or live births of children who have passed away?
What can we do for you?
You say you are engaged. When is the wedding supposed to be?
Are you living together?
Also, how old are both of you?

Thanks. Oh, and please try to break your posts into paragraphs to make easier reading for the elderly.
ok i had two miscarriages and i have found out that there is a possibility that i can never have children. we are getting married on sept. 15th. we have a house together and he is 24 and i am 21
Tiffany, sweetie, welcome. I'm sorry you're here, but glad it's not before you get married.

Don't marry this man. He's sending you every possible signal that he cannot or won't care for you and your feelings the way a husband should.

You can't change him, and you can't make him behave. And YOU deserve much, much better. Cancel the wedding. Or at least postpone it until your fiance isn't having cyber sex and phoning other girls.

You don't want that life, and marriage won't change it. In fact, marriage will most likely make it worse.

Many, many hugs.
Posted By: 4myself Re: anybody there that's willing to listen - 09/18/07 03:55 AM
PLEASE, PLEASE TELL US THAT YOU DID NOT MARRY THIS MAN.... AT LEAST NOT YET.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
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