Hubby not sure he wants a family... I do! - 01/15/09 03:24 PM
Hello all! I am somewhat new here. I've only posted once before. However, I am back again looking for some insight. Any advice will definitely be appreciated.
My husband and I married November of 2007. We've been together 4 years now. I am 25 and hubby is 27. We have a great marriage. We spend a lot of time together and both enjoy it. We communicate rather well in most situations. We are currently trying to save and pay off some credit cards and other bills before starting to build our first home together.
We just have one conflict. I want kids in the future and he isn't sure. I told him I want children after we are settled and in our new home. Not rushing into it because I want to be prepared. When I try to talk to him about it, he doesn't really say much. Just says he doesn't know if he will want children or not and he tells me he is afraid that if he doesn't want children that I will leave him.
I don't plan on leaving him. I can't picture my life without him but I can't promise how I will feel in several years. I guess my question is what do I do? I would hate to walk away from such a wonderful guy and marriage, but I can't help be a bit concerned we might be going in different directions in life. Is it possible he will change his mind? I guess I've known from the beginning he didn't want kids and I didn't think I did either until the last year or so. He has gone from not wanting kids to he isn't sure. Could that be a good sign?
My husband and I married November of 2007. We've been together 4 years now. I am 25 and hubby is 27. We have a great marriage. We spend a lot of time together and both enjoy it. We communicate rather well in most situations. We are currently trying to save and pay off some credit cards and other bills before starting to build our first home together.
We just have one conflict. I want kids in the future and he isn't sure. I told him I want children after we are settled and in our new home. Not rushing into it because I want to be prepared. When I try to talk to him about it, he doesn't really say much. Just says he doesn't know if he will want children or not and he tells me he is afraid that if he doesn't want children that I will leave him.
I don't plan on leaving him. I can't picture my life without him but I can't promise how I will feel in several years. I guess my question is what do I do? I would hate to walk away from such a wonderful guy and marriage, but I can't help be a bit concerned we might be going in different directions in life. Is it possible he will change his mind? I guess I've known from the beginning he didn't want kids and I didn't think I did either until the last year or so. He has gone from not wanting kids to he isn't sure. Could that be a good sign?