Restoration of Marriages and Lives for Wed, Dec. 31st - 12/29/03 10:16 PM
Every Wed. we pray and fast for one another for resolution to our marriages and our lives. Every Wed. we can check in and let our fellow prayer warriors know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better. "For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst." Matt 18:20.
We send out the prayer post on Mondays so everyone has an opportunity to check in and to add their own personal prayer request if they want to/need to. Then on Wed. we can check in, hit the "Post Reply" button, and enter "Amen".
I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us. If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.
Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: -.{160 Prayer Warriors and counting}
cajunky . Ezra . Willgetthruthis . Godisincontrol . Natasha79 . JohnC . NMWBTWBD (Not My Will, But Thy Will Be Done) . Wallace . relady . steadfast and committed . morriggs . lupolady . stillwaiting . Broken Hearted . PasDeDeux . hopeful_person . GinnyF . justpeachy . cry2much . SNL . LostAgain (Dave&April) . Dodger (Rtron) . gloriachu . LoveNcare . JMF . WEN . NiteHawk . Absurd . LetSTry . AgainsttheWind . cemmerson . getting better . kellidiane . Terrified . BeeLee . idostylin . Resilient . thiscantbehappening . day by day . Jloves . broken x3 . Sue with Hope . sunrise1 . shepette . Malc . Faithfulwife . timbo-e . Angelia . FeelingAllAlone . broken_joe .
dopey . awake . truly a friend . Is it to late . stilltryingtosaveit . landslide . GODBLESSU . vega . LoyalWarrior . janna-m-r . ferbie . epiphOny . simmy . cajeanie . d_rose . lost_lonely . briank4775 . mayflower . Caged_Bird . LunaDove . goldielocks109 . darwud . Mrs. Darwud . Zuzus Petals . adamv . Army Hubby . Gail (mojodiva) & Shane . bonnie five & H . TryingToKeepHope . Hopeful98 . lghoping . SoTired (Mike & Trish) . evega . Douglas and Kirsi Nielson . Jessicafl27 . kimmy2 . auntielala . weezy8550 . miserynmissouri . STBXWife . sealfan . Jen Brown . SMIAJ . cinderella . GreggC . trying_to_accept . solon . serenitydipity . ilia . lonejrock .
anchorhugger . Prayer & Patience . Chikar . Alex6 . Hopeforamiracle . fishlady . rookie . Made A Mess of Things . *DeepSigh* . boden . new comittment . deeplyhurting . jeff15679 . Bob Castaldi . k57mo . skottyjay (Scott and Melody) . TROD (Tony and Julie) . thisso . ladysheep . hurtmorethanheknows . singleguy . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage . Keesley . recovering_dad . Terrianna . javaContour . BH . Cheryls . cherry log . AD. . Suebee . REJECTED . LoveMyEx . LostHusband . kings kid . kwhittle . vividwhisper . imready2try . staeryn . JoeCM . mike729 . Ridingtherollercoaster . DREslinger . ecpsap . Mr.Miew . Standing_For_M . Alcoholic’s Wife . gentle . Stung by a Bee . maximus1 .
Blended family girl .Diamonzzz . sctaylor . RichardF . bygraceamfree . butterflie . FinallyLearning . angielt . luke parrish . sadmama
Prayers Answered/God's Gifts to Us:
Standing_For_M (her & H attended S' holiday concert and had a good time) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (kids were playing very loudly while W was baking and she didn't lose it, she let them have fun) . singleguy (found a gal, and her dog, who he can have a friendship with) . hopeful98 (had a nice conversation with her H) . Standing_for_M (had a five hour talk with H, some flirting with him as well) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (in my D's public school, they discussed things pertaining to the winter season, she said "God's Birthday") . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (I struck up a conversation with a former Catholic-Christian and shared my life, experiences and "The Purpose Driven Life" with him. first time I ever shared my faith with a stranger) . Blended faily girl (found a job within a Christian environment and received a raise) . Blended faily girl (the Lord placed a strong Christian woman in her life for a "Purpose") . Blended faily girl (four hour Bible study with sister on phone) . Standing_for_M (her H stayed the night, on the sofa, after visiting her and the children) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (a wonderful Thanksgiving with my wife and children - no fighting or talk of divorce) . Standing_for_M (her H's heart is softening by his actions towards her and their children) . LoveNcare (her son returns to his wife after 14 months) . lupolady (hard cast taken off her arm) . kings kid (good news about her biopsy) . Terrianna (daughter not moving away) . Steadfastandcommitted (wife is back and we are planning to renew our wedding vows in our church) . tryingTOsaveMYmarraige (D is interested in the Christian music I am listening to and asks a lot about God) . hopeful_person (H seemed more willing to consider a reconciliation) . GreggC (wife's heart is softening a bit and son asking about things in the Bible and believes in it) . WGTT (WH coming home) . d_rose (got a ways to go but we are going there together.) . Faithfulwife (GOT A JOB, Found a house, D is final and got a puppy that “just LOVES me”) . tsc (marriage being restored) . janna-m-r (Husband came home and wants to try to restore marriage even though he is the BS) . Steadfastandcommitted (wife gave up other man) . Stillwaiting (Got to see her husband for 2 hours and his heart seems to have softened) . Stillwaiting (neice is o.k.) . cajunky (wife not engaged & did something with family, told me she loved me) . Free (Marriage Restoration begun ) . Againstthewind (Got job) . betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery) . WGTT (accepted into mentor program) . Movingonwithlife (Wife coming home) . cry2much(sucessful surgery) . Steadfastandcommitted (first string again) . Lupolady (air conditioner) .
The Power of a Praying Husband - Stormie Omartian
Chapter Three - Her Emotions
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">When your wife’s emotions are in the hands of the enemy, everything gets out of tune and the results are unpleasant and upsetting. When God is in charge, her emotions are asset and the end result is soothing.
I’m sure you are already aware that your life can be dramatically affected by what your wife experiences in her emotions. If she is depressed, anxious, angry, or hurt, chances are you will feel it in some way too. Some men react to their wife’s emotions by tuning out. They don’t have a clue as to what is going on, so they withdraw and stop listening. Others make light of what their wives are experiencing, in hopes of minimizing the effect. Then other men will turn up the volume of their lives, hoping to drown out these mysterious problems. But I don’t believe men react this way because they don’t care. It’s because they don’t know what to do about it - and that realization alone is overwhelming to them.
The best way to approach the matter of your wife'’ emotions is to ask God to give you insight into what your wife is feeling and show you how to pray accordingly. Much of what happens in a woman's emotions begins in her mind. The enemy of her soul will feed her thoughts that make her feel depressed, sad, angry, bitter, anxious, fearful, lonely, or full of self-doubt. He will make her think that such thoughts are reality, or that God is giving her revelation for her life. When the enemy screams lies and confusion at her, God will use your prayers to put an end to it and bring the silence, clarity, and peace she needs. Your prayers will clear her mind, calm her emotions, help her to see the truth, and make her better able to hear from God.
If you found that after you were married a variety of hurts and emotions began to surface in your wife - things you had never been ware of before - rejoice that you have been deemed trustworthy enough to be her support through the healing time. Don’t run from the task or be afraid of it. You are not required to be the healer or to fix everything, or to have all the answers. Only God can heal damaged emotions, and He will do it from the inside out. But your prayers are crucial to keep the devil at bay while that is being accomplished.
“The best thing you can do is to assure her of your unconditional love by your words and actions”, I continued. “She needs your support more than ever. Tell her you are praying for her and will pray with her whenever she needs to do so. Ask God to help you understand what she is feeling and how to respond in a positive way. Praying about your response to what she is feeling is as important as praying for God to heal her emotions. And when your wife begins to find wholeness, it’s important to cheer her on.”</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">“rejoice that you have been deemed trustworthy enough to be her support through the healing time
Things might not be over for your marriage. Does your WW or BW still come to you with the troubles of her day? My wife does; be it her job, the neighbors, or our children. I would get upset because she says it’s over. “Why come to me with your problems? Can’t you find someone else?” I now realize it’s because on some level, she still trusts me.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Jack Hayford
So as I have prayed for her day in and day out for more than four decades of our marriage, I have found that my greatest effectiveness is in learning to let the Spirit of God sensitize my heart to Anna’s present moment - her tasks, her weariness, her joys, her trials, her uncertainties, or her needs.
This kind of praying requires one other thing: a constant clarity of soul in my own heart toward her. Irrespective of any stress-prompted irritations caused by our busy life, notwithstanding any impatience I, in my male-style responses, may have with her female-style actions or responses, I cannot allow my soul to become cluttered with any attitude that will cripple my capacity to pray with an understanding of her heart, patience with her trial, or sensitivity to her perspective.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Power Prayer
Lord, I am so grateful that You have made {wife's name} to be a woman of deep thoughts and feelings. I know that You have intended this for good, but I also know the enemy of her soul will try to use it for evil. Help me discern when he is doing that and enable me to pray accordingly.
Thank You that You have given {wife’s name} a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). Protect her from the author of lies and help her to cast down “every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ” (2 Corinthians 10:5). Give her discernment about what she receives into her mind. I pray she will quickly identify lies about herself, her life, or her future. Help her to recognize when there is a battle going on in her mind and to be aware of the enemy’s tactics. Remind her to stick to Your battle plan and rely on the sword of the Spirit, which is Your Word (Ephesians 6:17). May she turn to You rather than give place to negative, upsetting, evil, or disturbing thoughts.
Keep me aware of when my wife is struggling so I can talk openly with her about what is on her mind and in her heart. Enable us to communicate clearly so that we don’t allow the enemy to enter in with confusion or misinterpretation. Help me not to react inappropriately or withdraw from my wife emotionally when I don’t understand her. Give me patience and sensitivity, and may prayer be my first reaction to her emotions and not a last resort.
Although I am aware that I cannot meet my wife’s every emotional need, I know that You can. I am not trying to absolve myself from meeting any of her needs, but I know that some them are intended to be only met by You. I pray that when certain negative emotions threaten her happiness, You will be the first one she runs to, because only You can deliver her from them. Help her to hide herself in “the secret place of Your presence” (Psalm 31:20).
Lord, I pray that You would restore her soul (Psalm 23:3), heal her brokenheartedness, and bind up her wounds (Psalm 147:3). Make her to be secure in Your love and mine. Take away all fear, doubt and discouragement, and give her clarity, joy, and peace.
God's Grace,
tryingTOsaveMYmarriage
We send out the prayer post on Mondays so everyone has an opportunity to check in and to add their own personal prayer request if they want to/need to. Then on Wed. we can check in, hit the "Post Reply" button, and enter "Amen".
I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us. If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.
Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: -.{160 Prayer Warriors and counting}
cajunky . Ezra . Willgetthruthis . Godisincontrol . Natasha79 . JohnC . NMWBTWBD (Not My Will, But Thy Will Be Done) . Wallace . relady . steadfast and committed . morriggs . lupolady . stillwaiting . Broken Hearted . PasDeDeux . hopeful_person . GinnyF . justpeachy . cry2much . SNL . LostAgain (Dave&April) . Dodger (Rtron) . gloriachu . LoveNcare . JMF . WEN . NiteHawk . Absurd . LetSTry . AgainsttheWind . cemmerson . getting better . kellidiane . Terrified . BeeLee . idostylin . Resilient . thiscantbehappening . day by day . Jloves . broken x3 . Sue with Hope . sunrise1 . shepette . Malc . Faithfulwife . timbo-e . Angelia . FeelingAllAlone . broken_joe .
dopey . awake . truly a friend . Is it to late . stilltryingtosaveit . landslide . GODBLESSU . vega . LoyalWarrior . janna-m-r . ferbie . epiphOny . simmy . cajeanie . d_rose . lost_lonely . briank4775 . mayflower . Caged_Bird . LunaDove . goldielocks109 . darwud . Mrs. Darwud . Zuzus Petals . adamv . Army Hubby . Gail (mojodiva) & Shane . bonnie five & H . TryingToKeepHope . Hopeful98 . lghoping . SoTired (Mike & Trish) . evega . Douglas and Kirsi Nielson . Jessicafl27 . kimmy2 . auntielala . weezy8550 . miserynmissouri . STBXWife . sealfan . Jen Brown . SMIAJ . cinderella . GreggC . trying_to_accept . solon . serenitydipity . ilia . lonejrock .
anchorhugger . Prayer & Patience . Chikar . Alex6 . Hopeforamiracle . fishlady . rookie . Made A Mess of Things . *DeepSigh* . boden . new comittment . deeplyhurting . jeff15679 . Bob Castaldi . k57mo . skottyjay (Scott and Melody) . TROD (Tony and Julie) . thisso . ladysheep . hurtmorethanheknows . singleguy . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage . Keesley . recovering_dad . Terrianna . javaContour . BH . Cheryls . cherry log . AD. . Suebee . REJECTED . LoveMyEx . LostHusband . kings kid . kwhittle . vividwhisper . imready2try . staeryn . JoeCM . mike729 . Ridingtherollercoaster . DREslinger . ecpsap . Mr.Miew . Standing_For_M . Alcoholic’s Wife . gentle . Stung by a Bee . maximus1 .
Blended family girl .Diamonzzz . sctaylor . RichardF . bygraceamfree . butterflie . FinallyLearning . angielt . luke parrish . sadmama
Prayers Answered/God's Gifts to Us:
Standing_For_M (her & H attended S' holiday concert and had a good time) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (kids were playing very loudly while W was baking and she didn't lose it, she let them have fun) . singleguy (found a gal, and her dog, who he can have a friendship with) . hopeful98 (had a nice conversation with her H) . Standing_for_M (had a five hour talk with H, some flirting with him as well) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (in my D's public school, they discussed things pertaining to the winter season, she said "God's Birthday") . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (I struck up a conversation with a former Catholic-Christian and shared my life, experiences and "The Purpose Driven Life" with him. first time I ever shared my faith with a stranger) . Blended faily girl (found a job within a Christian environment and received a raise) . Blended faily girl (the Lord placed a strong Christian woman in her life for a "Purpose") . Blended faily girl (four hour Bible study with sister on phone) . Standing_for_M (her H stayed the night, on the sofa, after visiting her and the children) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (a wonderful Thanksgiving with my wife and children - no fighting or talk of divorce) . Standing_for_M (her H's heart is softening by his actions towards her and their children) . LoveNcare (her son returns to his wife after 14 months) . lupolady (hard cast taken off her arm) . kings kid (good news about her biopsy) . Terrianna (daughter not moving away) . Steadfastandcommitted (wife is back and we are planning to renew our wedding vows in our church) . tryingTOsaveMYmarraige (D is interested in the Christian music I am listening to and asks a lot about God) . hopeful_person (H seemed more willing to consider a reconciliation) . GreggC (wife's heart is softening a bit and son asking about things in the Bible and believes in it) . WGTT (WH coming home) . d_rose (got a ways to go but we are going there together.) . Faithfulwife (GOT A JOB, Found a house, D is final and got a puppy that “just LOVES me”) . tsc (marriage being restored) . janna-m-r (Husband came home and wants to try to restore marriage even though he is the BS) . Steadfastandcommitted (wife gave up other man) . Stillwaiting (Got to see her husband for 2 hours and his heart seems to have softened) . Stillwaiting (neice is o.k.) . cajunky (wife not engaged & did something with family, told me she loved me) . Free (Marriage Restoration begun ) . Againstthewind (Got job) . betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery) . WGTT (accepted into mentor program) . Movingonwithlife (Wife coming home) . cry2much(sucessful surgery) . Steadfastandcommitted (first string again) . Lupolady (air conditioner) .
The Power of a Praying Husband - Stormie Omartian
Chapter Three - Her Emotions
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">When your wife’s emotions are in the hands of the enemy, everything gets out of tune and the results are unpleasant and upsetting. When God is in charge, her emotions are asset and the end result is soothing.
I’m sure you are already aware that your life can be dramatically affected by what your wife experiences in her emotions. If she is depressed, anxious, angry, or hurt, chances are you will feel it in some way too. Some men react to their wife’s emotions by tuning out. They don’t have a clue as to what is going on, so they withdraw and stop listening. Others make light of what their wives are experiencing, in hopes of minimizing the effect. Then other men will turn up the volume of their lives, hoping to drown out these mysterious problems. But I don’t believe men react this way because they don’t care. It’s because they don’t know what to do about it - and that realization alone is overwhelming to them.
The best way to approach the matter of your wife'’ emotions is to ask God to give you insight into what your wife is feeling and show you how to pray accordingly. Much of what happens in a woman's emotions begins in her mind. The enemy of her soul will feed her thoughts that make her feel depressed, sad, angry, bitter, anxious, fearful, lonely, or full of self-doubt. He will make her think that such thoughts are reality, or that God is giving her revelation for her life. When the enemy screams lies and confusion at her, God will use your prayers to put an end to it and bring the silence, clarity, and peace she needs. Your prayers will clear her mind, calm her emotions, help her to see the truth, and make her better able to hear from God.
If you found that after you were married a variety of hurts and emotions began to surface in your wife - things you had never been ware of before - rejoice that you have been deemed trustworthy enough to be her support through the healing time. Don’t run from the task or be afraid of it. You are not required to be the healer or to fix everything, or to have all the answers. Only God can heal damaged emotions, and He will do it from the inside out. But your prayers are crucial to keep the devil at bay while that is being accomplished.
“The best thing you can do is to assure her of your unconditional love by your words and actions”, I continued. “She needs your support more than ever. Tell her you are praying for her and will pray with her whenever she needs to do so. Ask God to help you understand what she is feeling and how to respond in a positive way. Praying about your response to what she is feeling is as important as praying for God to heal her emotions. And when your wife begins to find wholeness, it’s important to cheer her on.”</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">“rejoice that you have been deemed trustworthy enough to be her support through the healing time
Things might not be over for your marriage. Does your WW or BW still come to you with the troubles of her day? My wife does; be it her job, the neighbors, or our children. I would get upset because she says it’s over. “Why come to me with your problems? Can’t you find someone else?” I now realize it’s because on some level, she still trusts me.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Jack Hayford
So as I have prayed for her day in and day out for more than four decades of our marriage, I have found that my greatest effectiveness is in learning to let the Spirit of God sensitize my heart to Anna’s present moment - her tasks, her weariness, her joys, her trials, her uncertainties, or her needs.
This kind of praying requires one other thing: a constant clarity of soul in my own heart toward her. Irrespective of any stress-prompted irritations caused by our busy life, notwithstanding any impatience I, in my male-style responses, may have with her female-style actions or responses, I cannot allow my soul to become cluttered with any attitude that will cripple my capacity to pray with an understanding of her heart, patience with her trial, or sensitivity to her perspective.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Power Prayer
Lord, I am so grateful that You have made {wife's name} to be a woman of deep thoughts and feelings. I know that You have intended this for good, but I also know the enemy of her soul will try to use it for evil. Help me discern when he is doing that and enable me to pray accordingly.
Thank You that You have given {wife’s name} a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). Protect her from the author of lies and help her to cast down “every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ” (2 Corinthians 10:5). Give her discernment about what she receives into her mind. I pray she will quickly identify lies about herself, her life, or her future. Help her to recognize when there is a battle going on in her mind and to be aware of the enemy’s tactics. Remind her to stick to Your battle plan and rely on the sword of the Spirit, which is Your Word (Ephesians 6:17). May she turn to You rather than give place to negative, upsetting, evil, or disturbing thoughts.
Keep me aware of when my wife is struggling so I can talk openly with her about what is on her mind and in her heart. Enable us to communicate clearly so that we don’t allow the enemy to enter in with confusion or misinterpretation. Help me not to react inappropriately or withdraw from my wife emotionally when I don’t understand her. Give me patience and sensitivity, and may prayer be my first reaction to her emotions and not a last resort.
Although I am aware that I cannot meet my wife’s every emotional need, I know that You can. I am not trying to absolve myself from meeting any of her needs, but I know that some them are intended to be only met by You. I pray that when certain negative emotions threaten her happiness, You will be the first one she runs to, because only You can deliver her from them. Help her to hide herself in “the secret place of Your presence” (Psalm 31:20).
Lord, I pray that You would restore her soul (Psalm 23:3), heal her brokenheartedness, and bind up her wounds (Psalm 147:3). Make her to be secure in Your love and mine. Take away all fear, doubt and discouragement, and give her clarity, joy, and peace.
God's Grace,
tryingTOsaveMYmarriage