Bomb dropped today (New Year's) - 01/02/05 05:29 AM
Hi, I hope there are real prayer warriors here. I sure need you right now. I've posted this also on the Divorcing/Divorced board.
I investigated this message board long ago, so apparently I still have an ID here. But essentially I'm a brand new member.
People, I covet your prayers, as today I was told by my husband that he filed for divorce on December 15. Why he waited to tell me until today, I don't know. It has been a 20-year marriage, never great, but not terrible until about five years ago. We have a 12 year old. We have been physically separated since August 2003, but just started counseling (which was helping a lot with communication) this past November. Then this.
Of course, there's a whole lot that goes in between, which I will not go into now. Suffice it to say, my husband never showed any effort to work at our marriage and has been the most passive person I've ever known until he hit a midlife crisis, and now he acts, sure enough, but in destructive ways.
I have been unemployed for two years (worked part-time for 12 years, full-time before that), and we homeschool. I have no family of origin and dread losing my in-laws, whom I love but they live at a fair distance.
Like just about everyone else, probably, I never thought I'd face divorce. I need support and advice (something besides "ah, forget the jerk, dust yourself off, and don't look back"). I'm concerned about my soon-to-be ex's ultimate future because he's on a bad track (hangs out with low lifes now and is totally self-absorbed), and I don't know how my kid and I will maintain financial stability since I haven't been able to find work, and now we want to continue homeschooling, as it has been wonderfully successful.
Once again, I covet your prayers.
~MDOA
I investigated this message board long ago, so apparently I still have an ID here. But essentially I'm a brand new member.
People, I covet your prayers, as today I was told by my husband that he filed for divorce on December 15. Why he waited to tell me until today, I don't know. It has been a 20-year marriage, never great, but not terrible until about five years ago. We have a 12 year old. We have been physically separated since August 2003, but just started counseling (which was helping a lot with communication) this past November. Then this.
Of course, there's a whole lot that goes in between, which I will not go into now. Suffice it to say, my husband never showed any effort to work at our marriage and has been the most passive person I've ever known until he hit a midlife crisis, and now he acts, sure enough, but in destructive ways.
I have been unemployed for two years (worked part-time for 12 years, full-time before that), and we homeschool. I have no family of origin and dread losing my in-laws, whom I love but they live at a fair distance.
Like just about everyone else, probably, I never thought I'd face divorce. I need support and advice (something besides "ah, forget the jerk, dust yourself off, and don't look back"). I'm concerned about my soon-to-be ex's ultimate future because he's on a bad track (hangs out with low lifes now and is totally self-absorbed), and I don't know how my kid and I will maintain financial stability since I haven't been able to find work, and now we want to continue homeschooling, as it has been wonderfully successful.
Once again, I covet your prayers.
~MDOA