First I would like to say that I have been in your shoes. But PLEASE, let me tell you that I now feel very guilty that I did not want to participate sexually with my husband when he wanted to. We have been married now 14 years, long story short, now I want it all of the time and he isnt interested. I mean, he will about 2x per month, but that is it. I never thought it would be like this and let me tell you.... It is devestating when they turn you down. Now I know how he felt! I am not saying to do it everytime he wants, but just try to understand that he loves you and it is a wonderful thing that he wants you sexually. Not that my husband means anything by it when he turns me down, but for women, it is very personal when a man rejects us. If I knew then what I know now, I certainally would have played my cards differently. Hang in there!