My fiance called off our engagment and we are on less than perfect talking terms. Now she seems to hear what she wants to hear, not what i say. I have apologized to her for my part and been forgiven yet now she seems unaccountable for any of HER actions or words. It is wrong for me to expect her to be accountable for her part and also apologize?

Hi Andre,

What are you both being accountable for? Can you tell us more about the behaviors that led to the trouble? Are you guys doing pre-marital counseling through a Church or something like that? If you are, or if you are not, if you still want to make it work, I'd really suggest doing the Emotional Needs and Love Busters worksheets available on the website.

Good luck,
jo