Romantic getaway a success - 04/04/01 05:28 AM
Hi! Just wanted to include any readers hoping for things to improve in your situation--please don't give up. I sure am discovering how rocky the recovery journey is with support and it makes my heart go out to those who hope to win their spouse back..emotionally or into the home, etc.<P>Our first getaway was a success which is a relief because frankly I worried it might not be...I worried time alone and away might mean a terrible fight or miscommuniciation, etc.<P>The rose petals? He loved them! they didn't trigger a migraine at all and in fact he kept raving about the beautiful fragrance of them. If you do this at home or go away, buy the roses the day you want them...all the florist does is tear the petals off the rose--I bought 5 at $4 each (dumb but h is worth it ) You can go cheaper and get same effect and likely 3 or 4 roses will do the trick.<P>I couldn't afford a bunch of gifts or tickets to special places but gave love cards over the 2 nights and 3 days we stayed. We had a fantastic grocery deli supper in our room--it was fun having a picnic inside! Potato salad, Havarti cheese, margarine, mustard, black forest ham and crusty rolls with diet pop and Hershey's Hugs for dessert!<P>We walked, talked a bit (we didn't work on EN questionnaire which I wasn't totally sure we should on a relaxation getaway), made love, sat in hot tub together, made googly eyes, went to a bookstore, went for coffee.<P>It was wonderful. The only letdown was coming home I found myself becoming vulnerable and after not really crying negatively since Saturday, the floodgates burst. I felt embarrassed but assured H the trip was more than I hoped for and I want us to do another getaway either at month's end or next month.<P>Don't be afraid to be yourself. It's who your spouse fell in love with and if you are working on recovery and restoration, he/she will love the new you more as you deposit the romance units along with changing the kitty litter and taking out the trast <P>------------------<BR>Fresh Start