can too much plan A have opposite result? - 08/26/04 02:49 PM
Hi,
I'd like to see your opinions on this one.
I've been plan A-ing for some months now. WW is noticing though we live seperately now. I do not act desperate/needy, but she knows I still choose our M and not D (I've told her).
She said she almost cannot imagine that I'm still being nice to her and that our M still means the most to me. She wishes she had the same commitment for our marriage.
Now she's asking herself if she has to stay and work on our marriage just because "I'm the nicest person she has ever been with".
Will this only strenghten her feelings of her not loving me enough? This is what she said: "I admire you more than ever for being so strong (= me taking all this pain and still wanting to work on our marriage). I wish I could have the same determination and commitment as you have for our marriage and I wish I could love you as much as you love me."
I'm scared that being too nice will backfire... That it will only prove to her that she does not love me enough...
I'd like to see your opinions on this one.
I've been plan A-ing for some months now. WW is noticing though we live seperately now. I do not act desperate/needy, but she knows I still choose our M and not D (I've told her).
She said she almost cannot imagine that I'm still being nice to her and that our M still means the most to me. She wishes she had the same commitment for our marriage.
Now she's asking herself if she has to stay and work on our marriage just because "I'm the nicest person she has ever been with".
Will this only strenghten her feelings of her not loving me enough? This is what she said: "I admire you more than ever for being so strong (= me taking all this pain and still wanting to work on our marriage). I wish I could have the same determination and commitment as you have for our marriage and I wish I could love you as much as you love me."
I'm scared that being too nice will backfire... That it will only prove to her that she does not love me enough...