Update...14 months and still waiting... - 11/29/04 03:58 PM
Yes...the divorce papers are still sitting on the table and i am procastinating.
Nothing is happening so far...well...not so true...turning back the clock more than a month ago...
13 Oct - I tried talking and inviting WH back home but i kept getting rejected. Told myself to do this suicide plan for one month.
13 Nov - I contacted OW's parents and told them that the two was going for a trip together the week after. I wanted to meet OW parents to discuss further. Immediately OW cancelled her trip. WH was mad. Came home drunk at night demand for the divorce papers. I told him calmly that he could have them when he was sober and in a calm state.
14 Nov - WH mom passed away. WH was devastated. I stood by him and gave him a lot of EN. However the fog did not clear up
16 Nov - I meet OW parents and spoke for 2 hours. They also tried to bring some sense to OW but she just refuse to listen to them.
20 Nov - SIL spoke to WH and told him to go back to family. She told him that it was also their mother's last wish before she passed away. I started to reduce my contact with WH.
25 Nov - Went to OW office to confront her. Together with two other friends. I told OW to stop contacting my husband and she said she cannot promise not to. WH heard of the confrontation and got pretty mad with me. He said why do i act like thugs by bringing along two other friends.
26 Nov - Spoke to WH. Told WH that after my visit with OW i realise that i have more pride and value than OW. I will not go down to her level to fight for WH. I am not that cheap. I said i am not giving up but i am backing off. Again...WH threaten to bring along divorce papers with him and again i told him on monday when he is feeling calmer.
Since then i have gone into hibernation. Sort plan B again...I also send him a message every night telling him that i am praying for him.
Strangely...there are good signs since i started pulling away. I was usually the one who message him first but lately he is the one doing it
I am doing much much better and I am able to control my pain now. Feeling so much more stronger and confident. i think my rollercoaster ride is less bumpy lately. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
Just a minute ago WH message me saying that he wanted to dropby the house. I dont know why but i told him i am going to sleep and maybe another time... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
Nothing is happening so far...well...not so true...turning back the clock more than a month ago...
13 Oct - I tried talking and inviting WH back home but i kept getting rejected. Told myself to do this suicide plan for one month.
13 Nov - I contacted OW's parents and told them that the two was going for a trip together the week after. I wanted to meet OW parents to discuss further. Immediately OW cancelled her trip. WH was mad. Came home drunk at night demand for the divorce papers. I told him calmly that he could have them when he was sober and in a calm state.
14 Nov - WH mom passed away. WH was devastated. I stood by him and gave him a lot of EN. However the fog did not clear up
16 Nov - I meet OW parents and spoke for 2 hours. They also tried to bring some sense to OW but she just refuse to listen to them.
20 Nov - SIL spoke to WH and told him to go back to family. She told him that it was also their mother's last wish before she passed away. I started to reduce my contact with WH.
25 Nov - Went to OW office to confront her. Together with two other friends. I told OW to stop contacting my husband and she said she cannot promise not to. WH heard of the confrontation and got pretty mad with me. He said why do i act like thugs by bringing along two other friends.
26 Nov - Spoke to WH. Told WH that after my visit with OW i realise that i have more pride and value than OW. I will not go down to her level to fight for WH. I am not that cheap. I said i am not giving up but i am backing off. Again...WH threaten to bring along divorce papers with him and again i told him on monday when he is feeling calmer.
Since then i have gone into hibernation. Sort plan B again...I also send him a message every night telling him that i am praying for him.
Strangely...there are good signs since i started pulling away. I was usually the one who message him first but lately he is the one doing it
I am doing much much better and I am able to control my pain now. Feeling so much more stronger and confident. i think my rollercoaster ride is less bumpy lately. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
Just a minute ago WH message me saying that he wanted to dropby the house. I dont know why but i told him i am going to sleep and maybe another time... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />