Thanks for your replies. Let's see what we can do now.
ORCHARD... Here are your answers..
1. How did you come to find MB? Google
2. How is your M? its ok.. normal i guess
Orchid: I found MB using google also. Mine was inbetween many tears.
What do you mean by normal.
3. Will you be seeing this OW again? most likely not unless there is another company function. she is 1000 miles away.
Orchid: So you may be seeing her again? In the same manner? If not, what have you put into place to prevent this from happening again to any OW?
4. R u ready to be a fulltime WS? what is a ws?
Orchid: WS - wayward spouse. Right now, that's you.
BS - betrayed spouse. Right now, that's your W.
5. R U planning to tell your W? no
Orchid: Why not?
6. R U willing to get real help? yes
Orchid: Really? It will take a lot of soul searching, reading, exposure, plans and planning, working with a qualified MC, lots more reading, implmenting some rules guiding principals like POJA, RH, etc. Go to the Just found out thread for definitions.
There is help available to pass you through this process easier if you are willing to work with him. Let us know. We will give you the contact info.
7. R U willing to do your fair share of the work with the real help? yes.
Orchid: Ok. Got your commitment, now to put your life where your mouth just went. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
It won't be easy but you are stepping in the right direction. You don't have all your oars in the water yet, but if you stick with us, you will and so will your W.
Long bumpy road ahead, you can't change roads right now, want support?
L.