Is your spouse the right one for you? - 10/11/05 05:58 PM
Is your spouse the right one for you?
I really don't like this question and I'm trying to figure out why.
Is it because it implies that if we find the right one, we will just be happy ever after without having to work for it?
Do I not like this phrase because it suggests shopping around for love after you've selected a mate and said vows?
And obviously there are boundaries that you have to establish which might lead you to give up your first "right one" to find your second "right one"
And it seems like a lot of WS Become confused about what the "right one" is or what should the "right one" do for you.
I am bugged by this myth for the right one. It puts happiness in a relationship not on the participants shoulders but on cosmic crap.
We build our life - we don't accidentially find it.
Is anyone else bugged by the "right one" thought process? Or is this an important question to ask throughout a marriage?
I really don't like this question and I'm trying to figure out why.
Is it because it implies that if we find the right one, we will just be happy ever after without having to work for it?
Do I not like this phrase because it suggests shopping around for love after you've selected a mate and said vows?
And obviously there are boundaries that you have to establish which might lead you to give up your first "right one" to find your second "right one"
And it seems like a lot of WS Become confused about what the "right one" is or what should the "right one" do for you.
I am bugged by this myth for the right one. It puts happiness in a relationship not on the participants shoulders but on cosmic crap.
We build our life - we don't accidentially find it.
Is anyone else bugged by the "right one" thought process? Or is this an important question to ask throughout a marriage?