...as promised...
About the kids:
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Stepson (now 22 years old)
Long story short, I had to ask him to leave (end of August)
...refuses to get a job
...lied about having one (umpteen times)
...all I ask is for him to get a part-time position
......for gas/insurance/his extra meals/etc. & for a future resume
...still refuses... and now living with his mom (my xW)
He is attemptng to live of the 15K his mother finally gave him
...from the 35K in SS benefits he should of gotten
......from his (now deceased) biological father (story unto itself)
...she asked me to take out $35K from our joint 401K (to pay off son)
......and once again he got short changed.
...trust (xW) is hard to come by.
I PUSH... for him to come back home...
...but only with a job. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Son (now 16 1/2)
He's doing better in HS...
...but if he fails one more subject... he'll have to stay back a year.
Otherwise a great kid...
...loves me... loves his mom(my xW)... everyone.
...close to God and is hooked on religious music... plays organ at church <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I hope this conflict(mom splitting with original OM)
...doesn't put any pressure on him.
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Daughter (now 13 2/3)
She's doing very well in school (next year HS)
She's still in dance(ballet,jazz etc.)
...now the studio is under new management
...and hopefully her last year dance-mates will come back after cheerleading
She's 'boy crazy'... I guess that's common
...but I have to monitor her Internet(chat) activity
......a few older boys were chatting inappropriately...
.........one I had to force a 'NO MORE CONTACT'
.............or else I'd have to get the authorities involved.
.........we talked <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
...she also has written to herself a letter about a sexual fantasy
......I worry
......I wonder how much her mother whould know
......It's tough being a single parent with a child of the opposite gender
......I have a sister who helps though... good to have a support system!
......we talked <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
......If anyone once to offer advice... I'm humble... and willing to listen!
Life goes on.
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About me (age unknown)
I've gotten very involved in church... and faith
... that's what has kept me mostly away from MB.
Lot's of faith building and understanding and learning...
...supported by the fact I do 'religious education' for the young ones.
My faith has an impact on all my thoughts (especially re: xW)...
...that is the perspective my future writting will come from.
Employment wise---
...all is well (programmer)
...it's a little bit far (25 miles each way)
...but I like it, and the people too
...everyone knows the story of money (never enough)
Healthwise---
...taking care of myself (type-2 diabetes)
......BTW: my 'inability' to manage diabetes was x's sole grounds for divorce
...........so much for '...in sickness and in health'
...it's stabilizing
...went through a 3 week bout of 'food poisioning' in Sept.
......lost 22 lbs...(down to below high school weight)
......even lower the infidelity diet! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
......but I've recovered
xW...
...this will be the focus of more postings.
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Thanks for the interest everyone has shown.
Love to all
Jim/NSR <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />