2334pem - 01/17/06 04:01 PM
You said:
I don't think you understood my question.... allow me to repeat ... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I did not tolerate chronic disrespect in my marriage. Did you?
If we are deciding that sex outside of marriage might be considered chronic disrespect, I agree.
Did you tolerate such disrespect, once it was known to you?
Tolerate ~~~> to suffer to be or to be done without prohibition, hindrance, or contradiction b : to put up with
In respect to the original poster to whom I directed my remarks:
She tolerated for years her husband NOT sleeping in her marital bed. This waves a very [color:"red"]red flag [/color] in front of my nose .... [color:"red"] about her [/color] NOT about her husband. Any person who tolerates and suffers this insulting indignity to her marriage ... might also consider other abuses by her husband to be 'within normal range' .... Abuses may be agressive or passive in nature.
It is my opinion that she ought to be warned [color:"red"] about her own willingness to sabotage her marriage by making non POJA sacrifices [/color] .
I am certain you would not recommend that either.
I did not want to threadjack her discussion now that her situation is becoming very critical.
Hence, 'hi-dere' to YOU
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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another name for having sex outside of marriage could be called "chronic disrespect" (answer to question above)
I don't think you understood my question.... allow me to repeat ... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I did not tolerate chronic disrespect in my marriage. Did you?
If we are deciding that sex outside of marriage might be considered chronic disrespect, I agree.
Did you tolerate such disrespect, once it was known to you?
Tolerate ~~~> to suffer to be or to be done without prohibition, hindrance, or contradiction b : to put up with
In respect to the original poster to whom I directed my remarks:
She tolerated for years her husband NOT sleeping in her marital bed. This waves a very [color:"red"]red flag [/color] in front of my nose .... [color:"red"] about her [/color] NOT about her husband. Any person who tolerates and suffers this insulting indignity to her marriage ... might also consider other abuses by her husband to be 'within normal range' .... Abuses may be agressive or passive in nature.
It is my opinion that she ought to be warned [color:"red"] about her own willingness to sabotage her marriage by making non POJA sacrifices [/color] .
I am certain you would not recommend that either.
I did not want to threadjack her discussion now that her situation is becoming very critical.
Hence, 'hi-dere' to YOU
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />