This is what our former pastor said. He was good friends with WH up until d-day:
"Looks like a great message and I can obviously see why it impacted you. As far as whether to send it to WH I don't know. It seems like a risk that might drive him further away in causing him to feel judged. In another way, it is scripture like this that often brings conviction and correction in a way that WH obviously needs. Since he has never returned any of my calls I don't know the state of his heart and whether it would be helpful but I will be praying for you for wisdom to know what to do."
I don't know the state of my WH's heart since I've been in Plan B since June.
Any input is appreciated. Thank you in advance.
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Okay, a couple of thoughts for you to consider.
First, if you are in Plan B, there should be NO communication with your husband. Therefore, if you are in a strict Plan B, sending your husband the sermon is out.
That's one of the reason I chose to do what I called (and many objected to my calling it that) a "modified Plan B." I remained in communication with my wife while we were separated simply because if I wasn't the one to stand for God and Biblical truth, who would? Certainly not her OM. In your case certainly not the "church" where they are attending as if adultery was acceptable to God.
Second, and this may be a bit tough for you, are you more interested in your husband's soul or in being married to him no matter what his relationship with Christ is?
When your former pastor said,
"It seems like a risk that might drive him further away in causing him to feel judged," there is, imho, NO "risk" here. He WILL feel judged. THAT IS part of the "deal." God judges sin, especially willful sin and disobedience of God. Christians ARE told to "judge" other Christians in the sense of "accountability" for the actions of a brother or sister in Christ who is obviously sinning. Make NO mistake about it, unrepentant adulterers will NOT be in heaven. Therefore, your husband is one of two things, since he claimed to be a Christian. He is either serverely backslidden, in which case the second part of your former Pastor's comment could well be true;
"it is scripture like this that often brings conviction and correction in a way that WH obviously needs." OR he never was truly saved and was a "Christian" in name only, for whatever reason he felt he needed to be identified as a Christian.
So what to do? Consider this, as painful as it may be to you. Your marriage is already over and there is nothing you can do to save it UNLESS he repents of his adultery and submits himself to God in humble obedience
no matter what he might be feeling. So what, exactly, do you have to lose? Fear of driving him "further into the arms of his OW?" He's already there, by HIS choice. Plan A didn't work. Plan B doesn't look like it's working after 6 months. So, if we assume that he really is a backslidden believer, then perhaps it's time to "let God have a try" instead of trying to "do it all yourself without God." What do you think? What do you have to "lose?" Do you really want him back WITHOUT God as the central focus of both of your lives, to say nothing of God as the center of your marriage to Christ, the bridegroom?
Yes, it will likely take a lot more time, but it might not. If a believer tries to "Run from God," they can only do so for a while. But they can never hide from God and the indwelling Holy Spirit will NOT let there conscience be calm when there is active rebellion against God.
Think about it. Pray about it. Seek God's guidance in what YOU, His daughter should do.
God bless.