My first reaction is that maybe not all is well in paradise. Can't really say why. Possibly omelette has noddy a bit scrambled and he is having trouble keeping the sunny side up. Not exactly a hard boiled answer but I can see omelette making noddy choose between spending his attention on her versus kids or possibly the egg is getting a bit rotten and he doesn't want you to know via the kids. Something has suddenly become higher priority. I don't think it is that he has lost interest.
Let it run it's course. Seems Noddy and the egg are not doing well. YIPEE!!!! Time to go have some fun and celebrate.
You realize your happines gives them misery. YIPEE!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
My advice: BE HAPPY!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
L.
My ex called the kids for, maybe, the first three weeks of his moving out. Now, he never calls them. They call him about once a month, they say that talking to him on the phone makes them miss him more.
He still gets them, usually three weekends a month.
Alphin, my WH never called the girls when we separated. NOT ONCE. Perhaps Omelette's demanding a bit more of his attention because she has to share him at the weekends!
Alph,
I'm by no means an expert, but if things just changed, I would think that's probably something is changing either physically, financially, emotionally, etc. on Noddy's end. Obviously 'something' is preoccupying his mind......, that's what I think.
My WH calls DS4 a lot, but I think it would change once he finds his 'dream' woman. In fact, right after he moved out, he never really called DS4, because he was just soooooooooo happy to be free. He was trying very hard to 'meet' someone (he signed up for 2 or 3 dating services), and was always out. Then he ran out of money...., also he started missing having people around, and then after 3 months or so, he started to call DS4 on a regular basis.
So I'm sure if something 'changed' on his end, this pattern will change.....
In your case, Noddy already has OW and they have been living together, I would have to wonder if things are not going so well over there anymore......
Milk
I think consistency one way or the other makes a difference. My Ex will call every day for a while and then when she starts having personal problems stops completely. For a couple weeks I can see/sense that it bothers the kids and then it fades away. We haven't heard from her since the day after Christmas which included her "missing" her sons birthday - she didn't call even on that.
All you can really do is be consistent and be there for them. That may be what your feeling - your kids feel they can count on you so have a higher trust level for you.
don't forget
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Pep
Oooh...I didn't know she was a Spanish omelette.
lets see...
a heavy drinking....heavy smoking...
pacifist vegetarian....
who abandons calling his children on a regular basis...
ohhh the irony
ohhh the hypocrisy...
alph...
lets talk about the drinking...do they drink heavily in front of the children...on Wednesdays and sunday afternoons?
I for one am torn on this...
and feel that as always when one adult ie him refuse to ACT like an adult...
that the ridiculous and horrible and unfair onus of responsibility rests on the smart fabulous ADULT...
so my initial thought is call the alien...say..
well Einstien.....it seems that you no longer call your daughters on a regular basis....and you might want to put that in your jalepeno sandwich...and chew it over for awhile....
BUT
if the answer is that he and she can not and do not refrain from drinking in front of the kids on a silly wednesday and sunday afternoon....
then there may be no reason to say anything...
and to probe a little with the kids and see if any effects are coming their way on this....
ARK
How ironic that would be when you had the opportunity to move closer to your family but chose to remain near Noddy for the girls' sake.
Grrrr.
I think that Omelette is probably behind it somehow!
heehee...This is good, alph. The understatement of the year, and the year is so young.
I think I have found a new sig line.
This sure does happen a lot. IMO it's more common than not. Even happened with my sister's H after he left. Big show about staying involved, but by the two-year point after separating he rarely saw his children except when they initiated.
Another reason to move to where YOU are happier?
with hugs and prayers,
IF he is reading first of all he's not much of a man not taking an interest in his children's lives. And I don't care if they are hurt or offended by what's he's done to their lives in order for him "to be happy". He still needs to make the effort and their anger (if it exists) is valid.
I am sure that the OW is a "real catch", breaking up families, taking a father from his children. I hope she gets all Noddy has to offer and vice versa. If this happens there will truly be justice in the world.
Hang in there Alph and take care of those girls.