A few come to my mind, Wayzilla and RT. What are other good names for OP?

Jayban calls his OM "Doofy." Personally, I refuse to call the OM in my situation by name. Generally when I refer to him to my W or friends I call him either "sh******" or "f********."

I have taken to calling OP "turtle" because a friend of mine said that's what she looks like.....I even called her that to WS...and I guess she didn't like it....I could care less:)

My W has been aware for about the last 2 years that I call her FOM "Rat Meat".

She doesn't much like it.

'wonder why?

It is a DJ, but I really have no respect for him. Even after all this time, my kids and I have never received anything resembling an apology from him... ...it.

-ol' 2long

Mine was "Fugly the eighth dwarf" back in the days when I still wasted brain cycles on him.

He is very short you see. And fugly.

"Rat meat" has alway been dear to my heart, but dear Alphin's OW "Tartilla Espanol" was clever, funny and true.

Love that one Bob. Good to see you back around from time to time.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Through my posts on MBers,
My W's OM is forever known as
The CLB ... = creepy little b******* <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

Its a Keeper,
even though he ain't! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I liked Lostva's name for the OW: PT

Look it up, though the story will require some excavation. It's pretty hilarious, though.

-ol' 2long

Bob:

I also considered "Phlegm Bag" in honor of the band "Controlled Bleeding's" album "Phlegm Bag Spattered".

But Rat Meat had already been pretty well established by the time it occurred 2 me.

-ol' 2long

Gee, I wish I were so creative!

I have been sticking with just plain old fashion **.

I don't know what she looks like and I hope I never do!

I have NO idea what OW looks like, but I call her Aimless; mostly because her name sounds like the first syllable (AIM) and she's a dumba$$ for getting involved with a married man because he 'convinced her it was okay' (WH told me he told OW this to start the A)

My original references to OM was “Skirt Boy” due to his hiding behind Wayzilla in fear, using her as a shield during exposure. The first time I coined it I told Wayzilla, “Your ten times the man as Skirt Boy, and at least I know who wears the pants in your relationship.” This was a probable Love Buster.

OMW ironically called him “Girlie Boy” during my exposure phone call because of his persistent denials of an affair when she had confronted him three times in the prior six weeks.

I have now settled on Gollum due to some unfortunate physical similarities and stature although Tolkien’s Gollum seemed far smarter and would probable mix better at a Black Tie Party.

"Controlled Bleeding's" album "Phlegm Bag Spattered".

Ah that wedding dance floor filler ! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Of course OW is VD...since those are her IRL initials.

I am awfully fond of what my Wookie calls her now...either "doofus" or (my personal fav) "nucking futz". Somehow they sound almost lyrical spilling from his lips...or perhaps it's just lyrical to me after those years (yes, years) of wondering if we were going to make it.

- Kimmy

My name for OW was TBSH = Tribal Boobed Skank ** (think national geographic breasts)

Now I just call her "The W****".

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> LOVE IT!!!

I've been wanting to come up with a good name for the OW. The "troll" just doesn't seem to cut it. She's more evil than that.

And lying, cheating **** is too vulgar.

Ogress? They're pretty vile.

I thought this site is intended to be helpful to WS's as well as BS's. It is, after all, a Marriage Builder's site. Some OP's may find this thread as a reason NOT to participate and build their marriage. Is there ANY good that may come from a thread of this nature? Is the laughter that may come at someone else's heartache really that funny?

Perhaps some things are better unspoken in certain circles?

JMHO...SD

Wikpedia's definition of Ogress:


An ogre (feminine: ogress) is a large and hideous humanoid monster. Ogres are often represented in fairy tales and folklore as feeding on human beings and have appeared in many classic works of literature. In art, ogres are often depicted with a big head, abundant and hirsute hair and beard, a huge belly, and a strong body. Today, variants of ogres can be found in most modern fantasy games, and the term is also often applied in a metaphorical sense to disgusting persons who exploit, brutalize, or otherwise devour their victims.


This fits her pretty good actually except I'm pretty sure she doesn't have a beard.

You're right. However, in my case I refer to OW as EWO (evil wicked one) because she WAS truly evil and wicked in her role in the attempt to destroy my marriage. I can laugh about the nickname now but back then, it wasn't meant to be funny.

JMHO

The OW in my situation does what she does for fun and is still doing it according to her H.

She destroys other people's lives without blinking an eye probably.

She knew my FWH was married with kids and living at home. After he left me so he could be with her, she suddenly decided to "get back" with her husband, whom had never left in the first place.

She's a lying, cheating, ogress troll. Period.

And she will be until she wakes up and is remorseful for the path of destruction she has and is causing.

sd:

While I have had many discussions about respecting the humanity of the OP, and have even stopped calling the OM RM for a period of time, I have 2 agree with mopey here, and something hcii said a long time ago about forgiveness.

I have never received an apology of any kind from RM for his interference in my family for 12 years of our lives.

I don't respect his humanity, because I see no evidence for it.

If he, or the ex Mrs Meat (or even the current Mrs Meat, when he starts "doing 2 her") were 2 come here, I would be honest - and blunt as all get out - with them.

I would be disingenuous and uncaring if I weren't.

-ol' 2long

>I don't respect his humanity, because I see no evidence for it.


The only reason that I may even suspect VD might be human is because I've got 2 OC that tell me her DNA was at least compatable with other humans....

But the relationship to humanity stops there for her....

And until she AT LEAST mothers up for her kids, I'll NEVER change my mind.

Till then, she is a complete waste of air and other natural resources.

Hey SD, good to see you back from time to time.

Is it not honest to talk about all things related to your M and the A? If so, then part of that may or may not be a name giving to the very person who was at min 1/2 of the cause of the worst part of your life. Reading these names together may bring some couples closer.

IMHO I think a light hearted thead poking fun at ourselves is nothing to get heartburn over. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

PS - What was your name for OM?

The name I picked wasn't too original - "Stupid Man."

I didn't say that I didn't have the same kind of feelings you are all expressing towards the OP. And I think many of the pet names for the OP are quite original and have their place.

My only concern is that as a marriage building site, for an OP to sign on and read a thread with this content, they may be less inclined to post for help with their own situation.

I'm not trying to be a watchdog, or rain on anyone's parade, I'm just suggesting that it might be read by people who are at a real low point in their life, and looking for help, and may feel more threatened than welcome.

It probably doesn't help that an employee/friend of mine for the past 11 years took his own life Thursday, and wasn't found until late yesterday, when I received the news. Perhaps I just need to refrain from posting until the darkness clears...

Best wishes,
SD

Noffmix (Not fit for mixed company).

And I have to agree with 2long and Kimmy - OM in my sitch does not display any shred of humanity, whatsoever. Why would I insult all you good people by including him?

One of the better pieces of advice I once saw here was to always call OP by their formal title when needing to refer to them with WS/FWS present: "Mr/Mrs <husband's/wife's> Wife/Husband." Drives their real-life status home without being too obvious. Sort of like a left-handed compliment.

SD

It probably doesn't help that an employee/friend of mine for the past 11 years took his own life Thursday, and wasn't found until late yesterday, when I received the news. Perhaps I just need to refrain from posting until the darkness clears...

I have experienced that situation and I sympathise greatly.

I beat myself up for a while thinking I could have done something to make him change his mind. But nothing would have.

Meditate and come to terms with what has happened. maybe not lingering in this painful place might be less vexatious to your spirit for a while ?

All blessings

OM in my sitch does not display any shred of humanity, whatsoever. Why would I insult all you good people by including him?

You know my OM, Fugly, has not asked for forgiveness either, nor apologised to me.

But he has remained in pitch dark NC, quit all the posts he held in sport that might involve NC violation; submitted to any and all counselling , therapy and what not his GF wanted for him and has reached out to his estranged children from his previous marriages and relationships in an attempt to do right by them. Heck, he even got a job after years as a deliberate wastrel to avoid child support.

He has been pretty much the perfect post-A OM, and now I can only resent the fact that he does nothing to justify my hatred of him.

In truth he has become something of an irrelevence to ur lives. I can't summon up the passion to loathe him any more. It is said that the opposite of love is apathy, not hatred. I haven't prayed that he dies in a motorway pile up crash for months and months now.

Still fugly though <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Sage advice, Bob, as always...thx!

Bearing in mind that my ex-fiancé developed into a semi-alcoholic underachiever that lost her looks, her pride and her lust for life then the best name I can find for my OM is “savior”

I try not to refer to OM at all, but I have considered calling him HF for Hog Feed, which he could easily have been if I were a truly vindictive individual.

I did once come up with a witty name for him that used his real name as an acronym, but I won't post it here since I wish to avoid legal retribution. Of course if he ever reads here, he knows who I am. I'm assuming of course, that he can read. Silly tobacco farmer wannabe...

Mark

LOL !

Uh, where I live, we call that type of person a "Critter."

Larry

Dealan-de.....





Pardon my manners....I forgot to thank you.

It fits her. FWH & OW met in a fantasy online role playing game.


Larry......

Critter. Hmmmmmmm........you mean like a filthy animal that sneaks around searching out vulnerable prey?

If I remember rightly the name I gave her started with a C and ended with a T. That was on Dday. I only called her that once. After that I called her "Sandy" (her name) because my WH tried to pretend she didn't exist so I liked to remind him that she did.

Hey, that was me! Before I came up with the name "Rat Meat", I referred 2 him as "The OMW's H". I did this during every one of our MC sessions after the 2nd or third one, using his W's name, calling him "K****'s husband".

My initial reason for that, which I told my W and our MC about, was that RM has a common first name, which is the same as one of my best friends in life, and I wasn't going 2 associate RM with my friend no way, no how.

It works fabulously, 2. It's a quick way 2 remind the WS that there is an innocent victim of their behavior out there, who's out there no matter how much they'd rather pretend they don't exist and aren't affected.

-ol' 2long

Oh, and then, for a time, it was "The OM's xW's xH"

maxi pad

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />I love how you stated that!

I believe that it is quite possible for me 2 dispose of what remaining animosity/pity I still find I do have for RM, if he were 2 just do stuff like that.

But he hasn't. Not that I can see, at least.

And my W still would like 2 believe that they can be friends again someday (a pic2re on her bulletin board has him in it, but she doesn't know I know), though she seems 2 be honoring my request for NC.

About death: A great friend of mine committed suicide last year, as some of you may recall. I bought some of his 2ls and his pickup from his widow, which helped her out in a tough financial spot. I drive that truck a lot nowadays, and frankly can only think fond thoughts of the generous and funny man he was.

Now, my MIL is likely wearing herself out prema2rely, by taking sides against my W in this house we're trying 2 sell out from under my W's sister. Quite outrageous, all of it. But you know? If she withers away as a result of her choices, it will be because of her choices. She'd like us 2 feel guilty for not giving a third of a million dollars away 2 someone who didn't earn it, but the simple truth is that we have nothing 2 be guilty of (and the whole experience applies in so many ways 2 our own marital recovery).

But I will try 2 remember the good things about her. I think my W will, 2.

-ol' 2long

Piece of Sh** Maggot

Works for me.

I call the OW a ROSE in the hopes that saying that nice word will change a hawg into a rose. so far it hasn't worked! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> My apologies to hawgs. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

The best name you can call an OP is "Gone". <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

The difference between an OP and a FWS is like the difference between night and day. Or a cute little fairy and an ogress. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

SD, sorry to hear of your loss.

Pep, Maxi Pad backword is Dap Ixam.

I like Big K's - straight and to the point.

Weel, as for us, almost 8 years into recovery, she never comes into conversation anymore. We live states and years away.
I didn't coin her nick, my then 14yo DS did. I drove a convertable then and it was summer. We were driving down main street when he stood up in the back,(a big no-no), and started screaming at another car next to us. "Hey, s**tgirl. How' ya doing'! Which was immediatly taken up by my other three rambunctious teen boys. I didn't have the heart to yell at him. That night they were all laughing and joking around about it when their step-father came home. He started to admonish them, took one look at my face and shut up. So s**tgirl she has been ever after.

I call OW Village Bicycle (credits to noodle!)
Everyone gets a ride, but nobody takes it home.


H, when he has to mention her at all, calls her "other" ... like that's her name.

How about "marriage and family terrorist?"

Sometimes "it" comes to mind as someone in the OP mode doesn't deserve the status of human.

Hmmm...I have lots of names for the POS who has come into my life unsolicited.

The personal ones specific to him:
Doof, Doofy, Doofus = He's a nerd
Popeye Looking MF = He's not attractive

I NEVER call him by his name. He is unworthy. If I have to reference him, then I call him something derogatory and de-humanizing.

In my situation or others:
I always refer to the other man with the acronym DB. That's more appropriate. "OM" is too nice of a word. If my WW is an alien, "Other Man" is the douche bag she will eventually throw away...they always do.

Cheers,

Right, it was you, wasn't it. Credit goes to 2long. Along with a lot of other credits. A screen full of credits.

And 2L is right. It makes the WS think, since it is totally true and it is not a DJ.

Beetlejuice

Shrek....because DH said she had disgusting teeth...I told my friends that, it got around to "ogre"...then ..."shrek"...I hardly ever refer to her by name.

I referred to the OW as "Little Miss Dow Corning" because I learned that she had gotten breast implants on her anorectic little body. I only used it once in my STBXH's presence, in couples counseling. But that's how I think of her.

PBR - Psycho Babble Rabbit.

The OW in our case claimed 3 false preggers. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> She even claimed to know the sex of the fetus at 6 weeks. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Then the nutso decided on the third lie to ask for $$ to cover her supposed medical insurance for pre-natal care. What she forgot to figure in was that one has t/b pregnant 1st. LOL!!!

The yucky part was if it was ever true and if the WS was the father, I (the one who carried the insurance) would have had t/b the one to pay for her medical care - some dumb CA law! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

Fortunately she wasn't and when I asked for the doctor's name as proof, she stopped asking for $$. LOL!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

There are other experiences where she earned truly the name PBR. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

L.

FROM LITTLE BRITAIN

There used to be an English sitcom about a dysfunctional family who lived in Liverpool where the father had an OW his adult children called Li-Lo Lil For the uninitiated a Li-Lo is an air mattress used for camping and other more desperate purposes.

Prince Charles OW Camilla Parker-Bowles was known to her enemies as the Rotweiler

Ours is Slutwyche for the OW as I ran into her not long after at Lutwyche shopping centre.

SD,

As a FWS all I can say is it's sort of par for the course. Just like the FBS has names for the FOP, many of us, at one point, had our own names for them. Now that my FOM is insignificant he isn't worth a name or space in my brain for that matter. People here know their SO's fit right in with whatever they are calling the OP.

The title of this thread would clue a person in as to what they are about to read. IMO, if a FWS doesn't think they can handle what is being discussed they should simply pass it up.

My H use to have 2 nicknames for my FOM, Headcase and Stupid F. Now that the FOM has become insignificant to my H he doesn't call him names. I would imagine his W has or had a nickname for me, but personally I don't really care because I know I am not the person I was during my A. I also hope for their sake and marriage that I have become insignificant to them just like he is to us.

WHen I found out her last name, I caller her musta effed and the first threee letters of the city she amd STBXH live in as they just happen to be the same letters. lol And her last name does started with Musta.

I refuse to call her by name. Except in legal documents. But in emails she is Ditchpig or "your mistress" in conversations. Or sometimes "the Thing". Mostly just DP4 to be exact. In honour of the fact she is the 4th one. One before I met my STBXH, also known as the Dork or Dumba$$.

My DD calls her 'evil married woman'. Yet we recently found out that she has never been married. So evil woman it is.

I mean what woman isn't sure of the paternity of her child? BLECH! What HUMAN tells my DD that the Dork never loved DD or ME as much as he loves her?

I have no respect or understanding of the depths or THEIR depravity and selfishness.

Franky for 4 years now- wife has suited me just fine...
Some of you are better than this...

Gross TNPP.

As if it is appropriate for people to acknowledge an OP as a potential SPOUSE.

Maybe they could call themselves expendable?

Obviously you do.

Do you think a wistress has any cred on the subject or on related ethics?

I think it's pefectly ethical to call the terrorist attacking your family names...not at all ethical to BE that terrorist or try to insult the offended party for BEING offended.

There really is no statute of limition on foggy thinking is there?

As I said..
Some..of you are better than this.

Some of us are not "better" by your definition and are ever so gratefull to not see things your way...but nice attempt at smugness [thumbs up].

Hey isn't spectacles around...I bet the two of you have lots to talk about.

Um...TNPP...REALLY? You think you should be telling BSs how to behave...It figures, but OMG, the entitlement never ends does it? You STILL post on TOW...Run along back over there to he11...It is a holiday after all and I'm sure all the OW over there could use your brand of "comfort" since we all KNOW they are alone and whining on days like today...SCRAM WISTRESS...Wife my A$$...PUHLEASE...You are a WISTRESS plain and simple...

Mrs. W

Pink Paige: last post before today 8/6/06
Cinnamon Sugar: last post 8/7/06

Both to same thread: http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...part=1&vc=1

Welly welly intellesting.

Here's let's just show the post so we all know that OP is a title Pink carries.

By da' PinkPaige herself from 2006: [color:"red"] I am a former OW- because I did marry my MM. Based on
the stats provided- I am probably the odd exception.
Now you're probably wondering why I am on this board-
I don't feel good about my past behaviors and my H and I
have worked very hard to atone for as much of the pain
we caused as is duely possible in out situation. I am
hear to both learn and in some way understand my own behavior- how could someone who has up until my involvement in an affair be a pretty ethical and moral person- toss
all that aside- to contribute to someone elses hurt- to
have my joy come at someone elses expense?
You'd have to read all my posts as PinkPaige and the New
Pink Paige to get an understanding of where I come from.
If you think it would be of benefit to you- I will post
my story- from the angle of why we ended up married- nearly
2 1/2 years now and happy. There were things his former
wife could have done that would have probably repaired
and kept their marriage together- but I don't believe she
ever found this sight. She has since remarried and seems
happy and although this does not excuse my actions- I am
honestly happy for her. But I'm still haunted by my own behaviors- 2 1/2 years married and I still have nightmares. [/color]

So if anyone is wondering why Pink needs to define herself as a W now, she has to remind us because for those who recall her previous visits she is an OWW (otherwomanwife).

Added: Pink may be quite sensitive to this type of thread. C/b due to the fact that the path she took to become a legal W is still tied to the fact that she had t/b an OW to manipulate her way and that part of history has already been engraved. Each time Pink tries to defend her 'happiness' she also reminds others she was an OW b4 her M. Sure makes for a trusting R doncha think? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

L.

yes, you are right. shame on me for insultin that hawg. At least the hawg didn't know any better. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Best name for OP: former

You just really don't get it until you are on the receiving end.

You've been doing Franky for 4 years now??? Is Franky your affair husband or have you moved on to someone else's husband...AGAIN??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Mrs. W

Well, he's not OM. He's my exww current boyfriend. He epitomizes the values she's adopted. He's two years younger than her, no kids, and likes to party how she does.

Funny how being married with three kids can be soooo draining (sarcasm) and suck the life out of you. Just amazing how taking care of three kids on the weekends just isn't as exciting as clubbing or going to movies or to dinners.

She told me he's from Turkey so I call him Turk Boy.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

You would be the only one it suits just fine.

Your quote "some of you are better than this..." If you are saying that we are bad by just picking a name then I can only guess what you think of yourself.

Thanks for poking your head out of your hole agian. Some of us never knew your sorry story.

Thanks all for pointing out just what she is.

I wouldn't want my life to be stolen and a lie.

Here's something else to call the OP: deceived.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

old reliable

funny how that wayward finger wagging works ....

That's terrible! Rottweilers are awesome dogs and don't deserves such slander. The only traits they could possibly share with her are an abundance of body hair and toxic flatulence.

bwhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

I prefer "Camel Bowels". <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

-ol' 2long

TNPP -

I've a feeling you will always have more in common with VD than with ME...no matter how you try to "legitimize" things in your cabaza.

THANK GOD!

Now run along back to TOW and TRY to show them what a 3%er looks like...cos everyone knows it's just a matter of time till it blows up for you two lurvebirds.

Pow! Feathers everywhere!

Nightmares after 2.5 years "married" 2 your OP?

If that were me (not ac2ally possible), I'd end it and focus on other than romanticism.

Underwater arc welding sounds pretty exciting.

-ol' 2long