You two are not alone...this has come up before.
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Here's the link to
Resentment Timeline Exercise ...my post is further down the page...
Just as I explained on Ruby's thread...the steps to do it do not convey the impact.
What YOU learn from it will be yours...it's not like saying "If you drive East from here to here to here, you'll get to New York" (and those directions work from anywhere in the world)...what you experience will be your own. What I don't want to do (and I think my post on the linked thread kinda did that) is tell you will feel or think...the process itself...writing down each incident or event...has it's own ownership and awareness properties built-in.
As with the other thread (and there have been more than one we've done this exercise on), if you will come back and share YOUR experience (anyone who would like to do this), your feelings, your thoughts after completing it...then others can benefit, as well...me, especially.
Also, I would add that this is great for any human being on the planet to do for themselves. We learn to resent in our FOO...and hold onto resentments through old and sometimes, hand-me-down beliefs. It's exceedingly common in long-term relationships, including in the work environment, marriage, parenting, and breathing.
That's my belief.
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You're not weird or wrong...what you are, is about to be free.
IMO
LA