Sometimes it does work out. - 05/17/07 04:11 PM
Some times it does work out.
It is just over a year ago that I discovered my wife’s EA. It had been going on for about a year. I found this place about 3 weeks later and set to learning all I could about affairs.
I thought my sitch was special and original and that the ideas around here didn’t apply to me. BOY WAS I WRONG. I thought what the he)) does Mel or Pep or Mrs. &Mr. W (and others) know about me and my wife. Attn newbie’s – they do know – listen to them.
I set out to do the best Plan A I could. I planned trips with my family. As many trips as I could. Picnics, county fairs, water parks – anything that would show my FWW us as a family. It was hard, you all know that. Hard to hear your wife telling you how much she loves the OM. I even moved out for 5 days. But I stuck to it (plan A) and in the end my wife just plain cracked one day while Christmas shopping. Spent the whole day crying to me. That was our turning point. Plan A was 7 months for me and I was about to go to Plan B at the time.
Today my wife HATES the things she said to me while in the fog. She HATES what she did to us. I have made Plan A improvements to me that are paying off big time. She has too. At the end of April I took my family to Disney World to for our son’s 6th bday. While there my wife told me how happy she was that I saved her and us from the EA crap. Talk is in the air of a 3rd child.
I have not been around too much because I am spending time with my family and trying to keep working on me too. I give credit to those who have been here for years and giving of themselves so others can heal. Thank you. I am not writhing this because I think I am special, but I want to give people hope and to show people that sometimes it does work out. I know when I was at my rock bottom that hope was all I had and I looked for it here all the time.
Best wishes to those still in this crap. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
Thanks to those who have helped me when I didn’t want to go on <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Sorrow to those yet to come here. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
It is just over a year ago that I discovered my wife’s EA. It had been going on for about a year. I found this place about 3 weeks later and set to learning all I could about affairs.
I thought my sitch was special and original and that the ideas around here didn’t apply to me. BOY WAS I WRONG. I thought what the he)) does Mel or Pep or Mrs. &Mr. W (and others) know about me and my wife. Attn newbie’s – they do know – listen to them.
I set out to do the best Plan A I could. I planned trips with my family. As many trips as I could. Picnics, county fairs, water parks – anything that would show my FWW us as a family. It was hard, you all know that. Hard to hear your wife telling you how much she loves the OM. I even moved out for 5 days. But I stuck to it (plan A) and in the end my wife just plain cracked one day while Christmas shopping. Spent the whole day crying to me. That was our turning point. Plan A was 7 months for me and I was about to go to Plan B at the time.
Today my wife HATES the things she said to me while in the fog. She HATES what she did to us. I have made Plan A improvements to me that are paying off big time. She has too. At the end of April I took my family to Disney World to for our son’s 6th bday. While there my wife told me how happy she was that I saved her and us from the EA crap. Talk is in the air of a 3rd child.
I have not been around too much because I am spending time with my family and trying to keep working on me too. I give credit to those who have been here for years and giving of themselves so others can heal. Thank you. I am not writhing this because I think I am special, but I want to give people hope and to show people that sometimes it does work out. I know when I was at my rock bottom that hope was all I had and I looked for it here all the time.
Best wishes to those still in this crap. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
Thanks to those who have helped me when I didn’t want to go on <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Sorrow to those yet to come here. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />