6-27 Celebrating 2 Years in Recovery - 06/27/07 01:26 PM
I decided a few weeks ago I needed to change my way of thinking. Instead of it being the anniversary of the day I found out about the A, I needed to think about it as the anniversary of the day we started making the changes we needed in our marriage.
I have not been perfect in thinking that way, but I am trying. There have been several things the last few weeks that have jumped out at me and reminded me so much of the time and events surrounding the affair and d-day.
I was so blessed that the A was over when I found out. I never had to deal with him leaving, withdrawal, etc. Since the A had ended 2 months before, we were both actually doing the carrot part of plan A. In fact we were building the love banks and meeting one another's needs.
I think when I discovered the A, I was so stunned because things in our marriage were so good. I felt like the couple of months before when things were so good had all been a lie because he was keeping secrets.
I don't think about her as I once I did. Only this past week since we were spending several days in her town with dh's family.
We have come so far. I have a husband who adores me. He makes my heart melt with his smile. He supports me in my business - even goes to help me photograph weddings.
We spend almost all of our time together - even if it is just beside one another while he watches tv and I do computer stuff.
He changed jobs and is now home so much more. I try to meet his needs as well as he meets mine.
We have check ups every few weeks as to how our love banks are building.
We are more honest with our needs. We are honest about when a withdrawal is made from the love bank as well.
We are happy.
We are celebrating the day as a day to "move forward" not to be stuck in the past or even the present.
I have not been perfect in thinking that way, but I am trying. There have been several things the last few weeks that have jumped out at me and reminded me so much of the time and events surrounding the affair and d-day.
I was so blessed that the A was over when I found out. I never had to deal with him leaving, withdrawal, etc. Since the A had ended 2 months before, we were both actually doing the carrot part of plan A. In fact we were building the love banks and meeting one another's needs.
I think when I discovered the A, I was so stunned because things in our marriage were so good. I felt like the couple of months before when things were so good had all been a lie because he was keeping secrets.
I don't think about her as I once I did. Only this past week since we were spending several days in her town with dh's family.
We have come so far. I have a husband who adores me. He makes my heart melt with his smile. He supports me in my business - even goes to help me photograph weddings.
We spend almost all of our time together - even if it is just beside one another while he watches tv and I do computer stuff.
He changed jobs and is now home so much more. I try to meet his needs as well as he meets mine.
We have check ups every few weeks as to how our love banks are building.
We are more honest with our needs. We are honest about when a withdrawal is made from the love bank as well.
We are happy.
We are celebrating the day as a day to "move forward" not to be stuck in the past or even the present.