WS won't go anywhere with me and kids - 08/02/07 03:25 AM
I am about to declare an EA for what it is, to my WW and the OM, and ask for them to spend less time together, or no time together, whatever I can get, if anything. Thanks to replies to a post I made earlier today... http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...&PHPSESSID=
For the past 3 months now, my wife will not go anywhere with just me and our two kids. That is, anywhere where there are people that know about the time she spends with the OM. She will go anywhere with us if the OM (also a close family friend) is along, vacations, church, etc. So I have missed my 20 year High School reunion, two weeks of planned vacation (one with my family and one with hers), and now am about to miss a 50th family anniversary. There is always an excuse about why we can't go. But it seems clear it is because she won't admit to her EA, but feels judged around those people that see it for what it really is.
Anyway, I am wondering if it is Okay for me to go to my family events with our kids without her? I have not gone anywhere thinking that it would be better to stay home with her than to leave her with a free weekend with the OM. Is it better to go on indefinetly without going anywhere just because my WW refuses to go with us, or to just leave her and go with our kids myself?
I hope and pray that with God's help, I can do my part to save this marriage. I want to do what is right and healing for us, whatever the cost to me, because I know I have hurt her in the past. Any advise would be appreciated. Thank you.
For the past 3 months now, my wife will not go anywhere with just me and our two kids. That is, anywhere where there are people that know about the time she spends with the OM. She will go anywhere with us if the OM (also a close family friend) is along, vacations, church, etc. So I have missed my 20 year High School reunion, two weeks of planned vacation (one with my family and one with hers), and now am about to miss a 50th family anniversary. There is always an excuse about why we can't go. But it seems clear it is because she won't admit to her EA, but feels judged around those people that see it for what it really is.
Anyway, I am wondering if it is Okay for me to go to my family events with our kids without her? I have not gone anywhere thinking that it would be better to stay home with her than to leave her with a free weekend with the OM. Is it better to go on indefinetly without going anywhere just because my WW refuses to go with us, or to just leave her and go with our kids myself?
I hope and pray that with God's help, I can do my part to save this marriage. I want to do what is right and healing for us, whatever the cost to me, because I know I have hurt her in the past. Any advise would be appreciated. Thank you.