A little appreciation goes a long way! - 08/07/07 02:18 AM
My husband and I have been married for 7 years, Six of those years have been spent being full time parents to his two children who are now 10 & 11 years old. His kids annoy me. They are constantly asking for something. Their mom does very little to help with htem, yet she is GOD to them. Now I know this aggravates thir dad but he is their dad, while I on the other hand have no obligation to these children aside from my husband. The more I give the more they ask for. When he and I first married and got custody of his kids, I tried to bond with them. It was like running after a car that is going in the opposite direction from you. They are constantly looking for approval from their mom, but never even realizing that I do all the hard work with no recognition. I have take them to practices pick them up from school, help their dad do things that are necessary for them, yet I am nothing to them. This is a very frustrating situation for me. It makes me want to just give up, and say hey let you mom do some of these things. (I have done this before and their response when she will not take them is well you just told her to take me because you know that she could not do it) The woman does not even have a job! Any advice here because I feel like I am going to loose my mind.
I think this situation is working on our marriage hard. My H cheated last year because of this yet I do not know how to make all this better. I can at best tolerate his kids.
I think this situation is working on our marriage hard. My H cheated last year because of this yet I do not know how to make all this better. I can at best tolerate his kids.