Will someone lay out a likely recovery timeline? - 02/10/08 08:46 AM
We are 6 months past D-day and have done just about everything with Marriage Builders concepts. I feel proud of my husband for working at making changes to repair the great amount of damage he did in the year he had and affair with my best friend. There has been NC since the beginning when he read a letter I approved of over the phone ending their affair. I'm no longer crying every other minute, like I did the first 3 months. Feel like I can handle a lot more now - like I'm getting back to normal.
I have no intention of giving up on my husband. He is remorseful and seems changed. But I do feel like some sort of wall is creeping up inside of me. I HATE what they did and it continues to shock me that they did it for a whole year. I feel so wronged and nothing can ever make it right. I know I was a good wife and I know I was a great friend - I don't know how you treat people as cruelly as they did. Some times when I look at him all I see is how disgusting he is for what he did. I feel bad for even writing that.
Will somebody lay out a possible time line for getting back to real living?
Please tell me these thoughts will pass!!
I keep praying for my heart to soften and be forgiving - and I am working everyday on that. God is the only sure thing I have.
I have no intention of giving up on my husband. He is remorseful and seems changed. But I do feel like some sort of wall is creeping up inside of me. I HATE what they did and it continues to shock me that they did it for a whole year. I feel so wronged and nothing can ever make it right. I know I was a good wife and I know I was a great friend - I don't know how you treat people as cruelly as they did. Some times when I look at him all I see is how disgusting he is for what he did. I feel bad for even writing that.
Will somebody lay out a possible time line for getting back to real living?
Please tell me these thoughts will pass!!
I keep praying for my heart to soften and be forgiving - and I am working everyday on that. God is the only sure thing I have.