reconciliation advice, hope? - 08/05/08 06:34 PM
ok, so my story's been dissected here due to my inability to explain the timeline, i apologize. now pleeze, hopeful & helpful observations...
my wife moved out june 20th.
since that time, i've been seeing counselor.
also read Gary Smalley. i'm a huge proponent of "honoring the wife"
also attending aa and sober since may 19th.
my wife has not filed any legal action.
there are no affairs in our past or present.
no physical abuse.
she has stated i have been controlling, irresponsable with money, disrespectful, that i used her to prop up my own self esteem. there is truth in all those points.
since the separation she has kept me in her life with constant invites to "do things together" including social events (most recent a fund raiser for ronald mcdonald house) movies at the theater, dinner &dvd in home dates (at her apt.) and last night she called to ask if i'd help her asst. coach my sons fall sports team that she is the head coach of.
also (understand words mean a lot to wy wife) last night she uttered this phrase on the cell phone as i was bringing dinner:
"ok hon, i'll see you when you get home."
this stuff feels good to me, obvioudsly, but anyone with experience from either side, please give some input. what are the chances she'll give me a chance???
my wife moved out june 20th.
since that time, i've been seeing counselor.
also read Gary Smalley. i'm a huge proponent of "honoring the wife"
also attending aa and sober since may 19th.
my wife has not filed any legal action.
there are no affairs in our past or present.
no physical abuse.
she has stated i have been controlling, irresponsable with money, disrespectful, that i used her to prop up my own self esteem. there is truth in all those points.
since the separation she has kept me in her life with constant invites to "do things together" including social events (most recent a fund raiser for ronald mcdonald house) movies at the theater, dinner &dvd in home dates (at her apt.) and last night she called to ask if i'd help her asst. coach my sons fall sports team that she is the head coach of.
also (understand words mean a lot to wy wife) last night she uttered this phrase on the cell phone as i was bringing dinner:
"ok hon, i'll see you when you get home."
this stuff feels good to me, obvioudsly, but anyone with experience from either side, please give some input. what are the chances she'll give me a chance???