Well I'm the one who cheated - 12/23/08 06:43 PM
I'm the one who cheated. I fell in love with a man I work with, his marriage for the last 4 years has been anything but pleasurable. My marriage was great until July my husband got caught up in bills and money and tryng to fix everything himself. In all of this he pushed me away. So with the feelings of resentment, I turned to the otherman. He was there for me where my own husband wasn't. I have totally intended on ending our marriage as I wouldn't want to hurt him. I have tried to get him to move out, he has refused. So my affair has gone on for a couple of months now. At first we were nothing more then mere friends, but with time we have fallen in love with each other, we spend time together when we can, depending on (When we can escape from our families). But I do truly love my husband and the other man. So Saturday night I went out. started drinking my affair man was there we were all having a good time. We had a few friends from work there. Nothing to high profile until the end of the night. So we danced slow, he made it quite clear to anyone that was close enough to hear that he professed his love to me. So me not getting home to Odark thirty in the morning threw some pretty major red flags up to my husband. So he wanted to know, I told him everything minus a few things. A girl that used to work where we do, went and called his wife and my husband. Telling them that we were making out in the bar like newlyweds. So his wife calls my boss, his boss and proceeds to tell them what has happened. Mean while he and I are now trying to figure out what just happened. I am so confused, I love my husband, I love my affair man.The both give me what I think I need. I am a very high sexual drive person. Intimacy is very important to me. So what do I do now?