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Posted By: tmi57 A question from Lurk-land - 01/09/09 05:18 PM
Hi, I've just got a what I hope is a simple question. I post very infrequently these days, in June of 06 I discovered my W's affair and confronted her. She immediately terminated the relationship and went NC and has demonstrated all of the attributes required for a successful recovery. Thanks to this board and the posters on this forum, we have achieved what I would have previously thought of as impossible. My current concern is the price she has paid, and is continuing to pay for her choices. Our relationship has achived the desirable "way better than pre-affair" but her low view of herself as a result of her choices is impacting her in ways I have been concerned about and is affecting what I believe we can still become.

For myself, I still need to find a "place" where I can put all of this and in the absence of a working search feature I am curious as to what the chronological definition of a LTA or long term affair actually is.

Thanks for your help


Posted By: imagine Re: A question from the land of Lurkdom - 01/09/09 07:07 PM
I have just read through your missus affair.

I hope that she comes to realize poor service before God is recoverable. I hope that you have learned to practice closure watch on those you love for every loving purpose.

Be the leader you must be. Already suggested by posters.

Posted By: tmi57 Re: A question from the land of Lurkdom - 01/09/09 08:17 PM
Thanks for taking the time to read Imagine. One of the wonderful after effects of all of this despite accepting God's forgiveness, she is yet to accept it from herself...even over 2 1/2 years after the fact. She has paid a deep personal price for her actions.

Posted By: believer Re: A question from the land of Lurkdom - 01/09/09 08:25 PM
There are a lot of former WW's here who feel very badly, even years afterward. Hopefully they will join in.

I don't know your beliefs, but maybe something like renewing your vows would help. That way, she will be symbolically starting afresh.
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