A question about selfish demands/NC/Plan-B - 01/22/09 05:02 PM
No I am not in this position, (and hope I never am) but am curious what to do if I do find myself in this situation.
Let’s say a couple is in recovery, but the BS gets the feeling that NC has been broken. He snoops and finds out sure enough, NC has been broken and the WS is seeing the OP on a regular or semi-regular basis (the amount of contact should not matter, NC is NC)
There is a point at which I would imagine that a BS feels that they have had all they can take. They may still want to recover there marriage, but are unwilling or unable to continue with/return to, plan-A. And know that any continued attempts at plan-A will fail miserably as long as the affair continues.
What does the B.S. do then?
The only thing I can think of is to address the break of NC with the WS and ask them to either stop contact with the OP, or leave the marital home. (So that the BS can institute plan-B)
I would assume that this does NOT classify as a Selfish Demand, is that correct?
Also, for a BS still trying to save his marriage, is this the best plan of action, or is there a better idea.
Let’s say a couple is in recovery, but the BS gets the feeling that NC has been broken. He snoops and finds out sure enough, NC has been broken and the WS is seeing the OP on a regular or semi-regular basis (the amount of contact should not matter, NC is NC)
There is a point at which I would imagine that a BS feels that they have had all they can take. They may still want to recover there marriage, but are unwilling or unable to continue with/return to, plan-A. And know that any continued attempts at plan-A will fail miserably as long as the affair continues.
What does the B.S. do then?
The only thing I can think of is to address the break of NC with the WS and ask them to either stop contact with the OP, or leave the marital home. (So that the BS can institute plan-B)
I would assume that this does NOT classify as a Selfish Demand, is that correct?
Also, for a BS still trying to save his marriage, is this the best plan of action, or is there a better idea.