Question - 03/01/09 01:33 AM
I have a question and don't know if this is the best place to put it or not.
So far most things I have read talk about both partners taking their part (responsiblity) in the A. Now I am the one that was unfaithful and we are actually in recovery, just taking time. My H has agreed to go back into counseling and possible read some books to help both of us get through this (although for the most part we are doing better than I would expect). Also to help us improve our marriage. He wouldn't read any books before now on this or anything on improving our marriage.
So is this the case? Will he have to admit to having a part in the A? I mean more so a part in not being the husband I needed. I know he will not like this and will cause more problems--so I don't want to get into any books that will say that w/o a counselor to help because he feels he has done nothing wrong in our marriage that would have led me to have the A.
I take 100% for my actions--no one made me do it. I did try for years to talk to my H about our relationship and trying to do something to make it better before I had the A (not an excuse).
I also don't know exactly what books are best (I know that I will be told to get the MB books and I would do that but I have been told others also--all Christian).
Thanks for your help.
So far most things I have read talk about both partners taking their part (responsiblity) in the A. Now I am the one that was unfaithful and we are actually in recovery, just taking time. My H has agreed to go back into counseling and possible read some books to help both of us get through this (although for the most part we are doing better than I would expect). Also to help us improve our marriage. He wouldn't read any books before now on this or anything on improving our marriage.
So is this the case? Will he have to admit to having a part in the A? I mean more so a part in not being the husband I needed. I know he will not like this and will cause more problems--so I don't want to get into any books that will say that w/o a counselor to help because he feels he has done nothing wrong in our marriage that would have led me to have the A.
I take 100% for my actions--no one made me do it. I did try for years to talk to my H about our relationship and trying to do something to make it better before I had the A (not an excuse).
I also don't know exactly what books are best (I know that I will be told to get the MB books and I would do that but I have been told others also--all Christian).
Thanks for your help.