Should I even try at this point - 03/30/09 03:57 PM
Hi,
A quick summary. Wife told me of affair 3 years ago. I tried plan A but was weak at it, I tried plan B but was weak at it. We divorced a year ago. Since then I do talk with her but when I know about boyfriend I usually hang up and don't call for many days.
She broke it off finally after 3 years, came out of the fog a little all last week. Conversations good. I went to dinner with her. She told me she was going to see a new guy. I pushed "us" a little to hard I guess. This week back in fog cold as ice.
I still love her, I do not know why, I can not explain. The extreme pain of rejection as come back because of this and I hurt all over again. I had been waiting for the break up for 3 years.
Should I keep trying and if so how? A new plan A. Be there for her even if it hurts again, understand her, listen, meet EN when she lets me? OR do I say forget it, she is lost and continue to try to heal from this as I was doing (unsuccessfully) for the last 3 years and basically go to a plan B/move on mode?
I do believe this new guy is a rebound thing and could be competed against, I don't think she will come back to me easily or any time soon. So, it is either go for it and hope she sees the light or forget it?
Thanks
A quick summary. Wife told me of affair 3 years ago. I tried plan A but was weak at it, I tried plan B but was weak at it. We divorced a year ago. Since then I do talk with her but when I know about boyfriend I usually hang up and don't call for many days.
She broke it off finally after 3 years, came out of the fog a little all last week. Conversations good. I went to dinner with her. She told me she was going to see a new guy. I pushed "us" a little to hard I guess. This week back in fog cold as ice.
I still love her, I do not know why, I can not explain. The extreme pain of rejection as come back because of this and I hurt all over again. I had been waiting for the break up for 3 years.
Should I keep trying and if so how? A new plan A. Be there for her even if it hurts again, understand her, listen, meet EN when she lets me? OR do I say forget it, she is lost and continue to try to heal from this as I was doing (unsuccessfully) for the last 3 years and basically go to a plan B/move on mode?
I do believe this new guy is a rebound thing and could be competed against, I don't think she will come back to me easily or any time soon. So, it is either go for it and hope she sees the light or forget it?
Thanks