emotional affair denial - 11/05/09 05:45 PM
Just looking for some support.
I very recently found out about an EA my spouse was having. Its not the first time and I am hoping I caught it before it was a PA, however, I left after I had confirmed all I thought I needed to confirm, but then I came back. What is bothering me now is that he refuses to admit anything...........and he knows I have proof. Instead, he has chosen to try and figure out just how much I DO know versus coming clean and getting over it. To me this behavior is worse because if he continues to deny then he will never be honest with me. My heart is broken. Need some advice. He wants to go through my proof line by line to "address" what I have, however, its enough that I packed up 15 yrs worth of our lives (and kids) and walked out. I had confronted him before to let him know I wouldn't stand for it but he chose to continue. Does anyone think I am fighting an uphill battle on this one? I don't want to be an idiot or a fool for him anymore, but I don't want 1/2 a husband, I want a whole one. He claims we can't go on if we don't have 100% trust in one another and I agree, but if he won't admit to any wrong doing then what am I to think?
I very recently found out about an EA my spouse was having. Its not the first time and I am hoping I caught it before it was a PA, however, I left after I had confirmed all I thought I needed to confirm, but then I came back. What is bothering me now is that he refuses to admit anything...........and he knows I have proof. Instead, he has chosen to try and figure out just how much I DO know versus coming clean and getting over it. To me this behavior is worse because if he continues to deny then he will never be honest with me. My heart is broken. Need some advice. He wants to go through my proof line by line to "address" what I have, however, its enough that I packed up 15 yrs worth of our lives (and kids) and walked out. I had confronted him before to let him know I wouldn't stand for it but he chose to continue. Does anyone think I am fighting an uphill battle on this one? I don't want to be an idiot or a fool for him anymore, but I don't want 1/2 a husband, I want a whole one. He claims we can't go on if we don't have 100% trust in one another and I agree, but if he won't admit to any wrong doing then what am I to think?