Well I talked to my H today and we told our oldest son....it was hard but we made it so he could understand.<P>My H told me that he does not want me to attend the funeral...... <P>I will not go where I am not wanted<P>Amanda<P>------------------<BR>I will love my husband "Always & Forever" <P>thevancefamily@hotmail.com

Hi Amanda,<P>Can you explain why H does not want you to go to your FIL's funeral? I'm sorry but I don't know much about your story. It seems really awful for him to keep you from the funeral.<P>Are you ok?<P>allison

az.....well he really wants nothing to do with me....I feel like he is pushing me away.. He is taking our boys to the services but told me that he does not want me to attend. He said he can't deal with me right now. I told him it was not about him and me and that his dad was my family to. I said that I needed to griev. He said he counldent stop me from going but that he did not want me there. They are having a viewing tomorrow and the funeral on wednesday. I will most likely not attend either.<P>We are in the process of divorcing and he is fighting me on a lot of stuff. Maybe this will make a differance.<P>Amanda<P>------------------<BR>I will love my husband "Always & Forever" <P>thevancefamily@hotmail.com

Amanda,<P>You have my greatest of sympathies.<P>It's not fair to be treated like dirt when you've suffered so much.<P>Praying for you.<P> <P>Jim

What a selfish man he is. As if you haven't been through enough already. You should go to this funeral regardless of what he is saying. You have that right! You are your FIL's grandchildren's mother. Grieve like you need to. <P>God bless you and good luck!

thanks for all te support. I feel like I have been shut ou by everyone on his side of the family.<P>I am not going....I will go up in a couple of weeks on my own to pay my respects....I may go to the viewing today after work but I don't know.<P>Amanda<P>------------------<BR>I will love my husband "Always & Forever" <P>thevancefamily@hotmail.com