Hi all if you havent read my post its been 8 monthe cents i have found about OW. H says he still doent want to be with her. We fight get along then fight then get along. Is this normal? Help I feel im lossing my mind. He gets mad then I get mad so then i will not speak to him. Then he gets nice so i will speak. He says he is not sure what he wants. Please prayer for us, that i do not lose my mind. What is everyones take on this.

Hi Tigger<P>Well I am not sure that any of this can be called "normal" but hell who needs normal anyways right ? <P>I was very much in about the same place as you are now about 18 months ago, and yes you will feel bitter somdays and want to hurt back and then you will feel loved and want to be nice. Your emotions are very up in the air at the moment and its as confusing for you as it is for your your H. <P>I know it might seem impossable now but you will get to a time and place where things calm down and you will feel more on an even keel, until then hang in and try not to flare up and be angry too much cause you might just end up pushing him away again ?<P>Hope to have been of some help.<P>Jen

tigger,<P>Yes...<P>...very normal...<P>Do get into cousneling so the both of your start swimming in the same direction!<P>Right now your just swimming in cricles (at best).<P>I would recommend that you have a couple of <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7200_phone.html" TARGET=_blank>telephone counseling sessions</A> (~$95US a pop... but well worth it) with <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7010_about.html" TARGET=_blank>Steven W. Harley</A> or Jennifer Harley. Check out the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7000_counsel.html" TARGET=_blank>Counseling Center</A>... and for some specifics... <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7015_fee.html" TARGET=_blank>Fees for Counseling Services</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7020_sched.html" TARGET=_blank>Scheduling an Appointment</A> (888-639-1639)!<P> <P>Jim

hi tigger,<P>very good advice here. I feel that up and down quite often, only have been in recovery four months. Have you tried reading Love Busters? This may help with some of the arguments. Its a lot of work but well worth it. When in doubt, I fall back on plan A. Its good rules to live by.<P>cleo

Thanks everyone all the disaggreements steam from him taking S to IN he even says he doesnt want to be over there with her but he still is. I feel if it means we are going to fight about it in front of S it is easier to let H pick son up at my moms. Iam I thinking right?