baby's mama - 05/13/05 06:36 PM
hi everyone,
I am not sure if this is the right place to past my topic but here goes...
My husband has a daughter from a previous relationship. when we met about 6 years ago, they were already broken up. From what I gather, she got pregnant and told her parents (she was only 16) and then ran away to live with her dad in TX. He didn't really keep in contact with her except a few letters and phone calls every once and awhile. she refused to get a blood test and didnt ask for child support, just checks in the mail every once and awhile...Well we met and I think she was still pregnant, but he didn't tell me anything untill we got serious. By that time I was angry that he hid it but I thought I could handle it. He acted like he never talked to her and that they never had a real relationship, just sex. about 2 years ago she asked for child support, and he just ignored all the papers so they started garnishing his wages. I asked him why he didnt ask for a blood test since sometimes he says he's not really sure its his daughter. We went to visit family over Xmas and since they are from the same home town she was there too. This was the first time I had seen her. But he wouldnt even walk up to her and say hi. He waited untill no one was around (including me) to talk to her. It's like hes afraid of her or something? I really dont get it. Well she said she wouldnt let him see his daughter unless I wasnt around and that someone had to be with him at all times. oh yeah the little girl doesnt even know he is her dad! the talk on the phone but the X treatens that if he tells the lil girl that he is her dad she will run away with the girl and he wont ever be able to see her... Oh this lady is messed up in the head and she's messing her daughter up too. The girl is 5!!! Anyways I started checking his phone bills to see if they were still talking cuz he acting like he was FINALLY going to go to court and get visitation rights and then one night they talked to eachother and then he gave up on the whole court thing saying that hes afraid she would run away and he would never see his daughter again (not like he sees her now)and I found out that sometimes they talk for hours while I am gone (about once a month) then last week I saw a text message saying "I still love and I am gonna have u back and u r gonna love it" some bull like that I asked him about and he said he doesnt pay attention to the things she says and he wont talk to her anymore. I dont know what to do. I know he cant be having PA because she is so far away but could this be an EA? He acts like he hates her sometimes but I dont know... hes been hiding everything that has to do with her since we met. Should I treat it like an affair? thats how it feels...
I am not sure if this is the right place to past my topic but here goes...
My husband has a daughter from a previous relationship. when we met about 6 years ago, they were already broken up. From what I gather, she got pregnant and told her parents (she was only 16) and then ran away to live with her dad in TX. He didn't really keep in contact with her except a few letters and phone calls every once and awhile. she refused to get a blood test and didnt ask for child support, just checks in the mail every once and awhile...Well we met and I think she was still pregnant, but he didn't tell me anything untill we got serious. By that time I was angry that he hid it but I thought I could handle it. He acted like he never talked to her and that they never had a real relationship, just sex. about 2 years ago she asked for child support, and he just ignored all the papers so they started garnishing his wages. I asked him why he didnt ask for a blood test since sometimes he says he's not really sure its his daughter. We went to visit family over Xmas and since they are from the same home town she was there too. This was the first time I had seen her. But he wouldnt even walk up to her and say hi. He waited untill no one was around (including me) to talk to her. It's like hes afraid of her or something? I really dont get it. Well she said she wouldnt let him see his daughter unless I wasnt around and that someone had to be with him at all times. oh yeah the little girl doesnt even know he is her dad! the talk on the phone but the X treatens that if he tells the lil girl that he is her dad she will run away with the girl and he wont ever be able to see her... Oh this lady is messed up in the head and she's messing her daughter up too. The girl is 5!!! Anyways I started checking his phone bills to see if they were still talking cuz he acting like he was FINALLY going to go to court and get visitation rights and then one night they talked to eachother and then he gave up on the whole court thing saying that hes afraid she would run away and he would never see his daughter again (not like he sees her now)and I found out that sometimes they talk for hours while I am gone (about once a month) then last week I saw a text message saying "I still love and I am gonna have u back and u r gonna love it" some bull like that I asked him about and he said he doesnt pay attention to the things she says and he wont talk to her anymore. I dont know what to do. I know he cant be having PA because she is so far away but could this be an EA? He acts like he hates her sometimes but I dont know... hes been hiding everything that has to do with her since we met. Should I treat it like an affair? thats how it feels...