Husband's "Crush" - 07/10/07 04:11 AM
Hello. This is my first time posting on this website and I sure am nervous. Anyway, my husband and I have been married for 8 years (have two kids) and have had a pretty sedate, easy-going relationship. We reconnected with a couple a few months ago (it was my husband's college roommate and his wife); spent time at dinner, local amusement parks (with the kids), etc... Well, I overheard my husband and the female friend talking together one day...they were just asking questions to one another, but the tone was strange. I let it go. A month goes by and just recently, we found out that this female friend had a miscarriage. My husband and I discussed how we should convey our sympathies to them but we didn't agree if we should call, send flowers, or a card.
Anyway, I received an email from my husband's male friend today, thanking my husband and I for the sympathy flowers. I had no idea my husband was going to send anything as usually I'm the one who takes care of that kind of thing. I asked my husband why he didn't tell me about the flowers and his response was, "I thought I did."
Now ordinarily I wouldn't even think twice about the flowers since 1) we did talk about what we should do and 2) I want to encourage my husband to be considerate and thoughtful of other people. But, after I told my husband about her miscarriage, the topic came up probably too frequently - like he was over-curious. So I have my suspicion that my husband has a crush on this woman.
I don't want to even ask him since I'm afraid of what his response might be. I'm a child of divorce and the way my parents handled their break-up SUCKED...so I think I'm emotionally damaged as a result. When I sense a relationship going south or in trouble, I want to exit before the other party has the chance. I certainly don't want to leave but my heart is kinda broken.
Maybe I'm making too much out of this. Anyone have advice? Similar experiences?..
Anyway, I received an email from my husband's male friend today, thanking my husband and I for the sympathy flowers. I had no idea my husband was going to send anything as usually I'm the one who takes care of that kind of thing. I asked my husband why he didn't tell me about the flowers and his response was, "I thought I did."
Now ordinarily I wouldn't even think twice about the flowers since 1) we did talk about what we should do and 2) I want to encourage my husband to be considerate and thoughtful of other people. But, after I told my husband about her miscarriage, the topic came up probably too frequently - like he was over-curious. So I have my suspicion that my husband has a crush on this woman.
I don't want to even ask him since I'm afraid of what his response might be. I'm a child of divorce and the way my parents handled their break-up SUCKED...so I think I'm emotionally damaged as a result. When I sense a relationship going south or in trouble, I want to exit before the other party has the chance. I certainly don't want to leave but my heart is kinda broken.
Maybe I'm making too much out of this. Anyone have advice? Similar experiences?..