I've been posting for some time in EN, but my friends there suggested I move over here because I just found out about my H's affair. I feel like dying. I don't have any idea how to get through this pain. Hoping some who have gone before me can offer some help. What do I do? How much do I ask? Is it better to know or not know? How can you get through this? Can you ever trust again? Does the hurt go away? What is best, to ask him to move out for a while? Do I even want to work on this? If so why? Do I ask him to change jobs (he is a pilot, the affair with a flight attendant.)? Is it even fair to ask that? I have so many questions and I feel so alone, so scared...I'm in the Twilight Zone.

Stick with your thread in GQII, you're getting responses there already.