emotional affairs-please help - 10/01/08 06:50 PM
My wife and I have been together for 24 years. 22 of it married. We have had a beautiful and smooth marriage and have both been secure in all we have had. My wife is a full time nursing student and spends all her free time studying. In april after my kids started complaining, I approached her and told her I was feeling disconnected from her. I was at the time playing world of warcraft and had made a female friend. My wife listened but nothing changed. bdfore long I was in a emotional affair with this online woman. We were texting, e mailing and talking on the phone. We never met or engaged in any sexual stuff. In June do to a very stressful job, I had a nerveous breakdown. My wife did not cope with my depression well and reached out to a ex boyfriend for support. Soon they were in a emotional affair too. I was seeing a christian counselor for my breakdown and was working with her to end my emotional affair. My wife came home one evening and told me she was feeling guilty about talking to this guy and she was getting attached. She broke down saying she was affraid she had destroyed our marriage. She was an emotional wreck. I talked to my councelor the next day who told me I should not tell my wife yet about mine due to my wifes emotional state. She told me to end mine immediately and to wait until we had gotten past hers. I had no trouble forgiving my wife and getting past my anger and hurt. A couple of days latter, a friend of hers told her about my emotional affair. She re contacted the ex boyfriend and then installed a keystroke recorder on our computer. She found my e mails to this woman and totally broke down. That saturday, she said she wanted a divorce and wanted to be with him. Now 2 months later, we are alot better and God is healing our marriage- but she is struggling with feelings for this guy and not having the right feelings for me. She keeps getting depressed and down and it hold progress up. Why is she feeling this way, is it normal and what can I do? Will her feelings for this guy go away? Please tell me what I can do......