I still love her. - 04/21/04 04:04 AM
My wife and I had been moving apart for a long time. We went through severe financial difficulty and that pushed my wife away. She found comfort in another man. Their relationship developed into an affair.
Before I found out about the affair she told me that she didn't love me anymore. So we started to go to counseling. Had gone for 3 weeks when the wife of the other man called to let me know "the secret". It all made sense. Increase in cell phone bills. Her need to take a break. So on and so on. She lied to our friends and counselor about our issues. They reached out to us and felt sorry for me that I was unable to support my family. I took the embarassing comments b/c I thought I was in the wrong b/c of the finances.
Once I found out about the affair I had to deal with the feelings of being a "loser" financially, embarassing comments to our friends and counselor, the affair and still that fact that she doesn't love me. She says she has a "special love" for me. What does that mean? I have a special love for our dog.
I want to get past the lies and the deceit. I want our marrige to be better than ever.
Does anyone have any pointers on how to handle the "no love" thing and how to get over all the lies?
Before I found out about the affair she told me that she didn't love me anymore. So we started to go to counseling. Had gone for 3 weeks when the wife of the other man called to let me know "the secret". It all made sense. Increase in cell phone bills. Her need to take a break. So on and so on. She lied to our friends and counselor about our issues. They reached out to us and felt sorry for me that I was unable to support my family. I took the embarassing comments b/c I thought I was in the wrong b/c of the finances.
Once I found out about the affair I had to deal with the feelings of being a "loser" financially, embarassing comments to our friends and counselor, the affair and still that fact that she doesn't love me. She says she has a "special love" for me. What does that mean? I have a special love for our dog.
I want to get past the lies and the deceit. I want our marrige to be better than ever.
Does anyone have any pointers on how to handle the "no love" thing and how to get over all the lies?