Dear Why-Me,
Dont' hesitate to post. It may help you sort things out and you may get some good advice to boot!
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> A very important aspect of what I thought we both believed was that one marries for life and the only intimacy that each of us had was with each other. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I found this really difficult to overcome too. But life does go on and you need to make a decision to either stay in the marriage and work through this or abandon ship. I'll bet it would be a lot easier for your wife to move on than to stay and face what she's done. Are you two in marriage counselling?
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">She does not realize how that ruins my day and my emotional health. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Have you told her? Re-building intimacy means opening up to each other.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> My question there was whether the romantic love can ever be restored. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Do you have an active recovery plan in place? Are you spending lots of time together doing FUN things to help build new positive intimacy-building memories? Think about when you were romantically in love with her. What did you do then? Romantic love and intimacy won't come if it's not nourished by the two of you. You know that. So it sounds simple, but you need to go out there and have some real FUN! Hey you'll probably even enjoy this part of the recovery process!!!
I hope things improve for you soon or rather I hope YOU improve things soon!
Regards,
Natalie