No contact letter flaw - 11/29/05 04:33 PM
Although my WW supposedly ended the A on 10/24, she did see and talk to him that same week and has not stopped contact with OM. I have been going forward with Plan A other than this subject. She has to make contact via phone or mail as he lives several hours away. I know this means the A still exists. We took a 5 day trip together and shared quite a lot of intimacy. But since our return, no intimacy, hence the feeling her contact with him has continued. I have a source at her work, but cannot confirm anything definite. My main question is even if I get her to agree to send a NCL, all she has to do is contact OM by email or phone and tell him to ignore it? Last night she called me from work with the news she has to take an overnight trip. She gave me some assurances that she is "going alone" and that "it is only one night and I can call her" I feel I need to apply some pressure for her to decide what she wants while she is away, but plan A says don't make demands?
I need to know how to proceed.