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Posted By: snugglermi Need some advice on getting him to leave - 01/14/01 08:52 PM
I am very frustrated at this point. My husband is very nice, supportive, communicative about my problems, not his, and yet won't leave. He tells me I am the one with the problems and he is sick of my head games. But I am sitting here with a duzie of a flu, he takes off to see his mother, leaving all three kids here. Then a few minutes ago, his mother calls, giving my son the message to come pick up his fish. She hasn't seen him all day. I am the stupid one. Okay, well, how do I get the strength to give him heave ho. I tell him to leave, he makes me cry, then before I know it, he is snuggled up to me, telling me I should really see some one regarding my Manic depressive behavior. ANd then he walks into his bedroom, sits down on the bed, and watches tv and asks me what is for dinner. How can I get him out? He won't leave me alone. Please help me, gn
Posted By: clyons Re: Need some advice on getting him to leave - 01/15/01 02:18 PM
You pick up the phone and call the police if you have to. I have read your other posts and honestly see no reason why you are allowing him to continue to stay. He sounds like a horrible and contolling person and you must get this out of your life ASAP. Do it for you and your children. If telling him FIRMLY that you want him out doesn't work then like I said before, call the police and tell them that you have an unwanted person in your home that won't leave. I sat around for most of my childhood and watched my mother stay in a similar situation and trust me, if you think this is hard on you, try being a child going through it.
I hear you, I understand what you are telling me to do. But he play games with my emotions. He makes me feel guilty in asking him to leave, He makes feel unworthy and that I am destroying my children if I ask him to leave. He tears me down, and then I become so weak, he walks all over me. I can't find the strength to fight him. I can't find the save place to fight him, I feel like I am drowning in his put downs, and critizism, and his meanness. How do I do it? I have called the Police. Oregon is a joint state, they can't make him leave unless I get a restraining order. IF I do that, what will my kids think of me? Mommy made the police take Daddy away? I feel so stuck, so more advice would be helpful-gn
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