I just could not get thru on GQII. I posted on your "I'm thinking of leaving" thread instead of continuing to try on the other "Mthrrhbard" thread

mthhr --<P>Thanks for your post...I have a couple of ideas about places I can go...I decided I just couldn't up and leave right then...I need to plan it out better...so I am going to Glen Ivy tomorrow for a day of rest and relaxation.<P>I posted the following on my 'leaving' thread...:<P><I>We had a 'real' conversation tonight...<P>I talked about EN questionnaire...other stuff...<P>H feels I am pushing too hard...he said he was confused and not sure what he wanted...WOW--a breakthrough???first time he has not said unequivicably that he did NOT want to be married...that he did NOT want to be attached to anyone....<P>I have given him stuff to read...he asked that I back off and give him time to read and sort out and figure out what he wants...<P>I asked him to fill out Lovebusters Q...so I knew for sure what he saw were my lovebusters...he was hesitant...so I said to look it over, if you don't want to fill it out don't...I will continue to play it by ear as I think I already know what I did that were lovebusters....(angry outbursts, critical judgements and selfish demands...)<P>I have been trying to meet his EN's based on questionnaire...his top ones were Affection, Conversation, Recreational companionship, family commitment and domestic support...I have been calling him just to say hi...putting cards in unexpected places etc. He said that it was irritating to him because he did not feel affectionate right now...I asked should I quit and he said yes...until he knew what he wanted...<P>If affection is a top need and he's being irritated by my trying to fulfill it what do I do????</I><P>Cali<P>