I need to vent tonite, My Wh and I just finished a little discussion on OW. Which by the way, I did not bring HER up, he did. We began by talking about US< US US>. Just when I thought the fog lifted a bit, it is not-- PEA SOUP. He told me that I "went nuts" when I told him to just go over to her house when he was online chatting with her 3 weeks ago with me in the room. Now get this, he has stopped chatting online with her because quote "I wanted him to", not "I know it is not right!!" Which I know that he knows this. Just when you think it is going good some stupid sh** like that comes pouring out of their mouths. I need to chill out tonite, dont want to LB, was having a good weekend, and week so far. Man this is taking a long time to snap out of. Things are definetely going in the right direction but "SLOW". MUST PLAN A< MUST PLAN A. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
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married 4/88
2 kids, 9,6
Dday 10/02-WH wants to move out, not happy for 4 years. We deceide to work on marriage.
1/03- WH says "not connecting" with me, doesnt know why, I mentioned possible EA with Co-worker, looked genuinely surprised and agreed. OW then offers her home to My HUSBAND>>>>
02/03-Wh tells OW "not committed to her, and is not leaving family".

I'm one month longer into this process than you are -- D-Day was 1/7, though the fling was only one month long. I avoid these kinds of discussions. They are just going to burn me out, and if I challenge his lies and justifications about OW, it just entrenches him in attitudes I don't want him to keep. I'm hoping they will soften and dissolve -- I've tried blasting them, unwisely and unsuccessfully.