No contact agreement broken, new here,please help - 09/16/12 07:37 PM
I am new here. Like most my story is long so instead I will get to the current challenge. My husband and I have been attending coaching sessions. We had a no contact plan. The extra marital partner attempted contact several times and the plan was followed. Recently the EMP extra marital partner flew from CA to GA and sat outside his work. He did great. Walked past her and called me. That day she emailed, he forwarded to me and blocked her. Same with calls. It was upsetting but the fact that he stuck to his plan made me feel we were getting somewhere. I had hope of rebuilding trust. I respected him.
Found out last week that he called her a week after her visit to tell her to just leave us alone. Instead he feel back into trap. Ended up telling her he loved her. Contact two more times via IM on a online game and he said he woke up and told her no this is not what he wants and to leave him alone. She offered to secretly be mistress. Asked him to get her pregnant in 7 years and said she loved him and would not leave him alone.
A day later he tells me all this. We were advised to do a letter threatening legal action if she continues to make contact. She works for airline so has the means to get here. Looked up laws and it does not appear we have legal recourse.
What do we do?
I have a video of her that she sent that she would not want to get out especially to her employer and to be honest I have considered threatening her with this but it feels very wrong. Husband doesn't want to go that route. I avoid harming anyone as I believe it is wrong for me and not who I want to be.
I am worried she will show up anyday.
Help is greatly appreciated. Ideas?
Thank you.
Found out last week that he called her a week after her visit to tell her to just leave us alone. Instead he feel back into trap. Ended up telling her he loved her. Contact two more times via IM on a online game and he said he woke up and told her no this is not what he wants and to leave him alone. She offered to secretly be mistress. Asked him to get her pregnant in 7 years and said she loved him and would not leave him alone.
A day later he tells me all this. We were advised to do a letter threatening legal action if she continues to make contact. She works for airline so has the means to get here. Looked up laws and it does not appear we have legal recourse.
What do we do?
I have a video of her that she sent that she would not want to get out especially to her employer and to be honest I have considered threatening her with this but it feels very wrong. Husband doesn't want to go that route. I avoid harming anyone as I believe it is wrong for me and not who I want to be.
I am worried she will show up anyday.
Help is greatly appreciated. Ideas?
Thank you.